This couple commissioned an amazing song from The Doubleclicks! Click here to listen while reading the rest of their wedding story.
The Offbeat Bride: Ashley
Her offbeat partner: Jake
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our overall goal was to create the best party that we ourselves would want to attend. We also wanted to avoid any infinitely long photo shoots. We didn't want guests to have to wait forever for the party to start while the picture stuff goes on. So instead of the traditional shoot, we rented a trolley — an open air brass-railed trolley of super awesome.
My dear friend put together a mystery adventure for those aboard to solve. We had the trolley for three hours and gallivanted about town in costume to retrieve the keys to his second best airship. We then got back to the hotel in time for napping/costume changes before the main event.
I changed my dress between the trolley ride and the ceremony. I wanted an “adventure outfit” and “evening attire.” I was getting frustrated trying to find something that fit my vision for the evening dress, so I decided to make my own! I made it green to honor my mother's handmade green dress from her own wedding.
We also commissioned a song from The Doubleclicks. We truly have “our song” with lines and layers of meaning unique to us and our wedding. I printed the lyrics and had them on cards by the favors, and then we played it during the ceremony for everyone.
But the highlight for us by far was the musical that our friends and family put together for us. There are truly not enough words in the world to attempt to explain it. Jake and I first met on Everquest and the musical captured our online gaming migration into the real world. The dialogue was all hilarious, and they used the music from, “We Gotta Get Out of This Place” by the Animals, “18 and Life” by Skid Row, and “Teenage Dirtbag” by Wheatus. “Teenage Dirtbag” was changed to “Online Player” and I think we all had it stuck in our heads the next day.
Tell us about the ceremony:
Our officiant and Master of Ceremonies was one of our dearest friends — I've known him for nineteen years. He did a fantastic job. There were three readings: “Falling In Love is like Owning a Dog” by Taylor Mali, “A Lovely Love Story” by Edward Monkton, “A Journey” by Nikki Giovanni.
My funniest moment:
I made it clear that there was no dress code and anyone could wear anything. Well, one of our dear friends, a 6'2″ male, took this rule literally and decided to wear a big, white wedding dress. He looked amazing. Several people around town made a game out of tracking him on Twitter, that's how awesome it was.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?
No matter how many spreadsheets you make, no matter how many questions you ask, I guarantee that in the last seventy-two hours, someone will say/do/ask for something not on the list. And you have to be ready to say why you're not doing it, make it happen, or just delegate it to them and not think about it again.
Also, if you put effort into your wedsite, don't be crushed when not everyone visits it. I did bury some wedding information on the site post-wedding and used it as a place to send people to see some of the highlights. That made me feel a little bit better about the work we put into it.
Build in extra time! And no matter how much extra time you build in, build in more! Most everything that set me behind in the weekend was due to my own procrastination combined with my difficulty saying “no” to others. But what I didn't gamble on was the trolley not starting on time and being 45 minutes late. That threw the entire afternoon out of whack.
Also, if I had to do it all over again, I would hire a day-of coordinator. I wish I'd had someone else who knew all the pieces in my head.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Meagan Abell was everything a couple could want.
- Flowers: Michelle Mills of Three Pearls Paperie was PERFECT. She was so wonderful and everything matched the overall theme perfectly.
- Venue: Old City Bar let us do whatever we wanted, and we could use the place the day before and didn't have to clean up until the next day.
- Trolley company: Richmond Trolley. Even with the hiccup, they worked with me every step of the way and the trolley experience was great.
- Hotel: The Berkeley put up with all of our craziness with wonderful aplomb, especially since thirty of us took up their tiny lobby in full costume for an hour.
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