We saw Becky's killer robot shoes and boutonnières in a Monday Montage. Here's the rest of this robot-filled party.
The offbeat bride: Becky, scientist/grant editor (and Tribe member)
Her offbeat partner: Aaron, iPhone software developer
Date and location of wedding: Heather's Glen, Conroe, TX — May 14, 2011
What made our wedding offbeat: Robots. That and the fact that we made our wedding exactly the way we wanted it. We looked at all the traditions and decided to use only those that were meaningful to us — the rest got dumped. From a distance, our wedding looked like most small, southern weddings. There was a bride in a white dress and bridesmaids in matching dresses and men in tuxedos. Up close, the traditional wedding started to get fuzzy.
I chose not to wear a veil. My dad walked me down the aisle, but he sat down when we got to the end. He didn't give me away (in fact, I walked the last six feet or so by myself). We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss and I didn't even wear a garter. Aaron and I spent the night before together, and the whole wedding party got ready together (we had donuts and kolaches and the XBox set up for playing Portal 2).
I incorporated robots any chance I got, but mostly subtly: they were on the boutonnieres and I had robot shoes and a robot charm on my bouquet as well as robot charms tied to all of the centerpieces. All of the boutonnieres were hand-made by me because boys don't generally care about flowers and I always hated seeing them get trampled on the dance floor later. I did all of my own flowers and centerpieces. My sister did my hair. We had three different kinds of local beer to choose from at the reception.
Tell us about the ceremony: It was very short. It was performed by my grandfather, and was the exact same ceremony he used when my parents were married 30 years ago.
The wedding party walked in to “Concerning Hobbits” and then I walked in to “Storybook Love” from The Princess Bride. I was so focused on Aaron that I didn't hear the music when I walked in and had to ask someone later to see if they actually played it. We did our promises, vows, and rings, omitting any sort of unity ceremony (we felt it was redundant, since the wedding itself is a unity ceremony). Our recessional music was “The Way I Am” by Ingrid Michaelson.
Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was the guest list. We wanted a small wedding, and our venue had an 80-person limit. So we took our lists and our parents lists and, after some minor cutting, made it work. We even had a secondary list to send invites to once we had a feel for who was and was not coming. Invitations went out, but most of the RSVPs didn't come back. I have a lot of family from out of town who were unable to make it. Unfortunately, by the time I got all of my numbers sorted out, it was too late to send a second round of invites.
I let my wedding day bliss overtake me and didn't care about any of the things that went wrong (several things that would have sent me into a minor rage just a couple of days beforehand). I was gloriously happy and married my best friend and that was all that mattered.
My favorite moment: Mine: Everything about the ceremony. My grandfather, an ordained minister, put together his version of the wedding ceremony from bits and pieces of all the different Christian ceremonies 30 years ago when he performed my parents' wedding. He used the same ceremony, word-for-word, for both my parents' wedding and mine (and countless couples in between).
Aaron's: “Our first kiss as a married couple, and seeing Becky in her dress for the first time.”
My funniest moment: When my dad was walking me down the aisle, he told me to slow down because I didn't want to get there too fast, and then took it back with “well, maybe you do.” I totally did.
After the recessional, the whole wedding party went back into the bride's room while the guests were dismissed to the reception. My sister, the maid of honor, immediately teased out our first post-ceremony kiss with the phrase “What was that? Church tongue?” which was followed by a high-five for not crying. I have cried at every wedding I've ever been to, except my own. I never would have guessed that.
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I expected to have to fight more for some of my offbeat ideas. I was prepared to argue with parents and with the venue coordinator (the venue is fairly traditional). It turned out that everyone was totally supportive of our ideas. Everybody made things happen the way I wanted, no fighting needed.
In fact, the venue coordinator blew me away with how wonderful she was. She stayed completely in the background and still managed to make everything happen the way I wanted it, when I wanted it to happen.
Also, I was worried that it would be too hot. Most of our reception was outside, and in Houston, May is summer. We had had several 90 degree days already. It turned out that it was a lovely 80 degrees with low humidity(!) and a cool breeze. It was perfect, and the last nice day we had before summer officially set in.
My advice for offbeat brides: Be true to yourself. I kept finding myself wanting to make my wedding more offbeat, more awesome. At some point, I realized that, while offbeat weddings are awesome and amazing, I needed to have a wedding that reflected me and Aaron. Don't reject tradition for the sake of rejecting tradition, and don't try to be offbeat for the sake of being offbeat. Think about who you are and what you really want.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Moxie Studios
- Venue: Heather's Glen
- Dresses: Alfred Angelo
- Shoes: Etsy seller NoraKaren
- Cufflinks: Etsy seller CosmicFirefly
- Ring sperm: Giantmicrobes
- Flowers: Fifty Flowers
- Cake: Chocolate Passions, Conroe, TX
- Jewelry: Naugi
- Becky's ring: Gemvara
- Aaron's ring: Meteorite from Boone Rings
- Tuxedos: Men's Warehouse
- Vases: IKEA
- Robot charms: Amazon
Enough talk — show me the wedding inspo!