Category Archive

nonbinary / genderqueer

This is our collection of weddings where someone identifies as nonbinary or gender-queer. We celebrate all identities and have archives dedicated to transgender weddings, gay weddings, lesbian weddings, and bisexuality — as well as gender identity issues.

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Turtles! Brunch! Dogs in ties! This rainbow lesbian wedding is all about furever love

Since Caitlin proposed to Kris with the tortoises at the Southwick Zoo, we included the turtles in all our little details including a custom logo designed by Caitlin/paper straws with turtle cutouts (save the sea turtles!), handknit turtle coffee sleeve favors which doubled as a seating chart by Caitlin’s grandmother Marcia, and even more turtle decorations.

Since it was a lesbian wedding, we of course had to include rainbows!

Let's watch the voyage of this travel-themed queer wine country wedding

Let’s journey to this sweet travel-themed queer wine country wedding

We had a travel theme! We both loved to travel before we met and have loved traveling together. The invitations were train tickets (all aboard!) and the table assignments were a country scavenger hunt of the places we’ve been or want to go together (know your geography)! As an officiant myself, I always encourage couples to decide what traditions work for them. One of the great things about a queer wedding is that you have to do that work. There's no traditional order or distinct bride/groom roles, so we got to figure everything out, from who proposed to whom (first) to who danced with whose parents at the reception. It was amazing.

I'm nonbinary with an non-accepting family: should I be in my sister's wedding?

Should I be a nonbinary bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding?

My sister has asked me to a bridesmaid. I’m deeply estranged from the majority of my extended relatives. She’s turning this wedding into a family reunion (300+ guests). I thought I had enough to worry about with being nonbinary and potentially needing to deal with gender dysphoria on the day, but many of these relatives are horrendously bigoted as well. Part of me wants to say fuck it and be outrageously myself as a nonbinary bridesmaid… but my anxious self fears for my safety. I’m not out to everyone.Should I ask to be demoted from bridesmaid to “regular guest” status so I can have full choice over what I wear?

These two shy partners rocked their vintage bibliophile Stardust wedding

These two shy partners rocked their vintage bibliophile Stardust wedding

I wanted my wedding to have a classic old Hollywood style. Since we are both bibliophiles who bonded over a love of the stars and Neil Gaiman, we picked Stardust as our inspiration. I was inspired by the images of paper moon photo booths, which fit perfectly with the vintage and astronomical themes that we wanted. I'm also a burlesque dancer who can't image a wedding without glitter.

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Genderfluid wedding inspo: Vintage science-themed queer elopement shoot

Just wait until you see the dopamine-driven vision that came to fruition at this eclectic wedding inspiration in Seattle. Two breathtaking vintage-inspired dresses, opulent jewelry that will have you panting, lush flowers by that look plucked from a dreamy field, and organic nature-meets-science decor.

(Also, these photos are an awesome celebration of how partnerships come in lots of different sizes, shapes, and structures. You’ll see…)

This wedding was a union of Egyptian Gods and an invocation of Earth's elements

This wedding was a union of Egyptian Gods and an invocation of Earth’s elements

The theme of this wedding was Egyptian Gothic & Frog and Toad are Friends. The grooms described it as “a union of Egyptian Gods and an invocation of Earth’s elements,” so you’re in for some meaningful and amazing ceremony rituals. Plus, you’ll love the reception details like the marble cake with lemon lavender frosting that looked like a birch tree!