The Offbeat Bride: Jonna, Gymnastics Coach and Communications Editor
Her offbeat partner: Kelsey, Sales Manager
Date and location of wedding: Friend's garden/backyard in Shreveport, Louisiana — March 19, 2011. Photos by Curt Youngblood Photography
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our relationship has been somewhat offbeat from the start. We met through Facebook after finding out our former partners were having an affair.
We created our ceremony, utilizing passages and inspiration from Offbeat Bride. On my wedding day, I became not only a wife, but a step-mama to Kelsey's daughter, Emma. I worked with my friend Irina on a custom design for two necklaces, and after Kels and I exchanged rings, I surprised Emma with stepmom vows and a necklace matching mine.
We saved a fortune by accepting any help offered. A friend gifted us our amazing photographer, Curt Youngblood, and another friend brought sound equipment and ran the show for us. Another friend became ordained and married us, while another thoughtfully selected hours of music to play during the reception.
We married in a friend's garden. We borrowed all of the chairs, tables, chair covers, table cloths, and glassware from church. I bought my dress on eBay for $80, and had it tailored to fit for $35. We ordered all of our flowers from Sam's Club, and bought all of our food from there as well. My dad and I cooked and baked practically everything served at the wedding. Many amazing women who have known me my whole life contributed to the gardening and decorating the day before the wedding. I am pretty certain we spent less than $2,000 total.
Tell us about the ceremony with stepmom vows:
Well first, we chose non-traditional wedding music. Kels chose “When I'm 64” as the processional; I walked down the aisle to “Blackbird,” which is very special to our little family. Our recessional music was the theme song from The Office, which is our absolute favorite TV show. People really perked up hearing it.
Here is an excerpt from the end of the ceremony:
(Officiant:) If there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, may it be the love that brought you here. Today, your separate lives with your individual memories, desires, and hopes merge into one. You are adding to your life, not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust as well. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities, and love. I pray that you may always be a blessing and comfort to each other.
The vows I made to my step-daughter were pretty special to me.
Here was what I said to her:
Emma, I promise to always love you, listen to you, learn from you, and teach you what I know. I promise I will be good to your daddy.
I cried basically through the whole ceremony, but when I knelt down and made the promises to her, everyone joined me.
She got really shy once all the attention was on her, so afterward I said “Is that cool?” (something people still tease me about) and she nodded and immediately hung on her daddy's leg.
My advice for Offbeat Brides: While my friend Allison did my hair for the wedding, she said, “People are going to try to pull you two apart throughout the reception. Cling to each other, and don't be afraid to sneak off if you need it.” I thought this was strange, but she was totally right. Any time I saw a friend alone, I wanted to go visit and introduce him or her to others. After a while, I realized I hadn't seen my brand new husband in a long time. I frantically searched for him, and kept him by my side the rest of the reception.
Have you been married before and if so, what did you do differently?
Kels had been married before, and it was really important to me that he give me input. I had thought we would write vows to each other and say them in front of everyone, but he is introverted and knew that would be difficult. We ended up having our officiant say the vows and we only said “I do,” which was fortunate since I was crying almost the whole time.
With my husband being introverted and the majority of the wedding guests being from my huge family, we decided that in lieu of a receiving line we would serve dessert to everyone. This was great because we could visit from across the table and had something to do with our hands, and if nothing else, dessert as a topic for discussion.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Serving people desserts was a great idea, but for the love of God, have someone make you a plate! You will be starving, and you don't want to miss out on all the goodies.
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