My partner and I are getting married this coming October, and I thought I would share a copy of my vows as we lead up to the day.
Our intention with our ceremony is to be authentic and realistic to what a marriage between two flawed humans will look like for us, while also being romantic and intentional in the promises we make to one another.
To that end, we are combining actual vows with acknowledging and owning our shadows and ways we will show up not so pleasantly in our marriage, as well.
The result, I think, is an authentic honouring of who we both are in all our light and our dark.
Without further ado, my vows are as follows:
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I own that I am going to project my anger onto you instead of sharing my feelings or asking for what I need.
I own that some days I am going to be hard to be around.
I own that I am going to be defensive and guarded instead of letting you see my vulnerability.
I own that I am going to hurt your feelings.
I own that some days I will want to run away.
I vow to see you as a whole person, with your own path, and to encourage you to follow your heart and passions.
I vow to prioritize my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being in our partnership.
I vow to take responsibility for my mind, emotions, projections, and experiences so you are free to be yourself in our partnership.
I vow to communicate honestly, authentically, and kindly with you.
I vow to show you my vulnerability when I’m afraid or angry, or at least to try.
I vow to cultivate other relationships and support, both within myself and within our community, so that burden isn’t placed solely with you.
I vow to play with you, celebrate with you, and laugh with you. To work hard to make this life less serious.
I vow to see you fully when you’re struggling or defensive, and to hold you in love.
I vow to encourage you, praise you, appreciate you, and inspire you.
I vow to love and accept all of you.
I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labour has been returned to dust, and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have, and I am in love with you.
I enter this marriage with clear seeing of you in your entirety, your light and your dark, and vow to hold steadfast for as long as our love shall last.
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