Disco Pride: a gay three-day Buddhist wedding

Posted by
 | Photography by Fern Photography
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 7 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Photography by Fern Photography

Offbeat Couple: Lou and Ellis

Date & Location: 8/20/2022, Comrie Croft, Perthshire, Scotland

Halò! We're off to Scotland this time with Dan and Matt of Fern Photography for the gay buddhist wedding in Perthshire of Lou and Ellis Beardsmore. This power couple are the founders of Pride Outside CIC, working to help “create a world where LGBTQ+ people are safe and well” by providing LGBTQ+ workplace training for public and private organizations in their native Scotland and across the world.

Given Fern Photography's own mission of inclusivity and to celebrate individuality, they were a perfect fit for these two amazing humans! Check out the fantastic pre-ceremony shots they took of the soonlyweds:

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 1 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Dan and Matt: We always like to include a pre-wedding session! Our couples always say they enjoy the experience, and the great benefit of the session is that you both will be much more relaxed on your wedding day.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 2 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

This session helps us all get used to working together, prevents any surprises on the wedding day, and helps couples see how we achieve natural portraits at weddings: images that catch a private moment between the couple, rather than a more formal, staged portrait.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 5 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

For their ceremony day, we think the best way to describe the proceedings is a three-day wedding festival – vibrant, cheery, and outdoors!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 25 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

As photographers, one of the most important bits is the timeline of the day, allowing us to make a comprehensive plan to ensure that we capture everything important.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 47 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

While it's more work for us to photograph in this way, we want the images will feel like personal memories rather than a photographer’s obscure interpretation of the day.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 40 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

The couple chose Comrie Croft as their venue, a lovely 200-year-old farmstead, house and barn, nestled in the Scottish Highlands, together with 231 acres of fields and woods for eco-camping and mountain biking.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 35 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

We made pizza and camped the night before the wedding, which was a great way for us to get to know the guests and feel like a part of the group!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 28 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

For the wedding day, the couple had told their guests to wear kilts and what they feel comfortable in. They didn't realize they had a theme until after sharing what they were wearing themselves on the day and someone described it as “Disco Pride” and people seemed to run with that which was great!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 44 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

A standard day for us is arriving between 10 and 11am to start capturing the wedding preparations, and snapping non-stop until dinner!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 46 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

The day of the ceremony started very wholesomely, with making breakfast together as a group before getting ready.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 6 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

The type of light for the “getting ready” space is important to the final look of the photos. Large windows letting in lots of light are key, as are rooms decorated in colours that compliment skin tones.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 32 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 34 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

After brunch, it was back to Comrie Croft, with candles and a beautiful flower arch in a quiet woodland meadow.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 16 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 10 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 12 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

The couple chose the arch as a means to recognize people in the LGBTQ+ community who still can't get legally married, reminding us of how meaningful this wedding was and that it is truly something to celebrate!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 50 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 13 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 15 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Bubbles!

There was a rejoicing in merits as this was a Buddhist ceremony, started off by Ellis' dad and Lou's mum and then handed over to anyone else who wanted to speak.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 18 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 20 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Merit-making is important to Buddhist practice: it's a force that results from good deeds done, capable of attracting good circumstances in a person's life, as well as improving the person's mind and inner well-being.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 17 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 19 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 21 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

This left Ellis and Lou to do their speeches after the BBQ and sharing platter meal. Dinner time is when we’ll take a break, get some food and load all the photos taken so far to a hard drive for safe keeping.

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 41 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

The night was ended with joyful dancing and an awesome marshmallow toasting break!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 31 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 48 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Eventually it was time for us to say goodnight, pack up and head home to upload all the memories of the day for the couple to enjoy. We do this for every wedding, regardless of how late we return home!

Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 29 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 49 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Thank you Dan and Matt for sharing this amazing day with us! Feeling inspired? Check out more of their portfolio here!

Vendors:

Gallery:

  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 1 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 2 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 3 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 4 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 5 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 6 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 7 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 8 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 9 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 10 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 11 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 12 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 13 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 14 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 15 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 16 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 17 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 18 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 19 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 20 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 21 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 22 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 23 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 24 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 25 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 26 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 27 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 28 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 29 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 30 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 31 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 32 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 33 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 34 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 35 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 36 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 37 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 38 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 39 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 40 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 41 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 42 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 43 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 44 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 45 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 46 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 47 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 48 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 49 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
  • Lou And Ellis Fern Photography 50 alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Offbeat Wed Vendor

This page features vendors from our curated Offbeat Wed Vendor Directory. They're awesome and we love them. If you're a vendor let's get you in here!

Meet our fave wedding vendors