5 step “WIC-whiplash” recovery: how to calm down when you feel pressured from all sides
Do you ever feel like you’re getting it from both sides: you’ve got pressure to be more traditional and materialistic on one side, and on the other side, you’ve got pressure to be uniquer, more special-er, authentically truly meaningfully YOU-er. Back! Forth! Back! Forth! I can resist tradition! I don’t want to avoid something just because it’s traditional! I like chair covers! But I can’t like chair covers! Everything we picked is personal! Now it feels like of embarrassing…like it’s over the top and “me me me”!
THIS, my friends, is what one reader coined as WIC-whiplash (WIC-lash?). Together, we’re going to take a deep breath and try to get over it.
In which a giant registry store loses our business by ignoring my groom
Husband of the Future and I made an appointment to go to a major retailer to get a start on our registry. We ended up leaving when they totally ignored by groom, stating “Oh, he doesn’t matter. Grooms don’t matter at all! Everyone knows it’s the bride’s day!” So let’s talk about standing up for groom-inclusion and voting with your dollars.
How offbeat weddings make it easier to find awesome vendors
You might want to have a TARDIS on each reception table. Or you might want a geologically accurate Grand Canyon wedding cake. Or you might want a life-sized unicorn that sneezes glitter and pees lemonade. Let’s face it, a lot of those traditional vendors just aren’t going to get it. However, I see this as a positive…
No, I’m not marrying my best friend (…her husband may take issue!)
Since we’ve gotten engaged, a couple of people have mentioned things about “marrying your best friend.” As in “Oh, isn’t it great that you get to be with your best friend forever?” Let me be clear, if you are a person who feels that they will be marrying/have married their best friend, that’s great! You do you, whatever makes you happy. But I’m a little weirded out that this seems to be the assumption now.
My fiance is not my “best friend” and I doubt he ever will be.
How far would you go to save money: Would you have a “sponsored wedding”?
So, in my crawls across the internet I came across the idea of “sponsored weddings” ie services that you either get discounted or free in exchange for promotions/advertisements at the wedding. On one hand, I think it’s tacky… on the other, I think it’s fabulous.
What are your thoughts on all of this?
Dear Bridal Industry, we need to talk about “looking pretty” on our wedding day
Dear Bridal Industry, I will not allow myself to become caught up in your ideals of what a bride “should” look like. I will not become sucked into your standards of beauty, ones that are different from my own. I will not let you dictate to me what pretty is, and isn’t.
Speaking of which, here are more things I refuse to do…