Who cares who leads? Non-gendered first dance ideas for all
My brother-in-law — who has never danced himself — once told me that it is only natural in dancing that the man leads and the woman follows. Having taught many partner dance classes, from Swing to French Folk, I can tell you that that is completely and utterly untrue. Of course there is nothing wrong with the “man leads, woman follows shuffle”-type first dance, but not every wedding involves one man and one woman. And even for those who do, there are many options beyond the traditional first dance…
Marilee & Lizz aka “Sasquatch and gnome” get hitched in a nature park
This “tall and small” couple are giving us feel-good goosebumps today. We’ve got a gnome and Sasquatch cake, etched wood decor, a scenic park venue, and a pup in a bow tie. Just wait until you read what they did for the first time in front of their family. It’s tear-jerking. But our favorite part is the funniest moment. Hint: it contains Boy Scouts and a very special merit badge…
Warrior Brides of the 21st century: No more resting in bubbles of wedding planning privilege
I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
Gender-bending bride: why I’m wearing a suit and a veil
I went to try on dresses. Me — in all my genderqueer, butch, transmasculine glory — in a traditional bridal salon, trying on wedding gowns. I found “The Dress.” But I didn’t buy The Dress. I’m not going to wear The Dress or any other dress. That’s not the point.