Category Archive

nonbinary / genderqueer

This is our collection of weddings where someone identifies as nonbinary or gender-queer. We celebrate all identities and have archives dedicated to transgender weddings, gay weddings, lesbian weddings, and bisexuality — as well as gender identity issues.

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Marilee & Lizz aka “Sasquatch and gnome” get hitched in a nature park

This “tall and small” couple are giving us feel-good goosebumps today. We’ve got a gnome and Sasquatch cake, etched wood decor, a scenic park venue, and a pup in a bow tie. Just wait until you read what they did for the first time in front of their family. It’s tear-jerking. But our favorite part is the funniest moment. Hint: it contains Boy Scouts and a very special merit badge…

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Warrior Brides of the 21st century: No more resting in bubbles of wedding planning privilege

I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!

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Gender-bending bride: why I’m wearing a suit and a veil

I went to try on dresses. Me — in all my genderqueer, butch, transmasculine glory — in a traditional bridal salon, trying on wedding gowns. I found “The Dress.” But I didn’t buy The Dress. I’m not going to wear The Dress or any other dress. That’s not the point.

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This “gride” and “broom” were married by a drag queen clown nun from the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence

Nicole and Melissa’s Washington wedding at Nature’s Connection Place is one for the books! For starters, they crafted “gride” and “broom” signs for their chairs and were wed by a bearded be-glittered member of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, who officiated while rocking a massive rainbow sequined headdress. There were hints of purple in everything from the couple’s matching boutonnieres to the violets cascading down the side of their wedding cake.