Warrior Brides of the 21st century: No more resting in bubbles of wedding planning privilege
I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
Gender-bending bride: why I’m wearing a suit and a veil
I went to try on dresses. Me — in all my genderqueer, butch, transmasculine glory — in a traditional bridal salon, trying on wedding gowns. I found “The Dress.” But I didn’t buy The Dress. I’m not going to wear The Dress or any other dress. That’s not the point.
A nonbinary wedding: This GRIDE & BROOM were married by a Sister of Perpetual Indulgence
Nicole and Melissa’s Washington wedding at Nature’s Connection Place is one for the books! For starters, they crafted “gride” and “broom” signs for their chairs and were wed by a bearded be-glittered member of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, who officiated while rocking a massive rainbow sequined headdress. There were hints of purple in everything from the couple’s matching boutonnieres to the violets cascading down the side of their wedding cake.
Shawn & Ani’s spontaneous change-of-plans intimate wedding dinner
When life throws you lemons, you make delicious intimate wedding lemonade! This pair was planning a larger wedding, but we love the results of their change-of-plans: a chic restaurant, 15 of their nearest and dearest, and a funny moment during the ceremony.