Newly-engaged secret: you don’t have to plan it all today!
We KNOW some of you just got engaged, and are now being bombarded with questions: When’s it happening? What setting are you picturing? What’s your theme? How can I help? Have you thought about decor? Can I get you in touch with my baker friend? Your friends and family are asking these questions because they’re excited for you, and want to give you the opportunity to share your own excitement.
When you get peppered with these questions your response, however, may not be excitement… it may be anxiety.
Alternative and gender-neutral wedding party names: adventure party, bridesmates, henchmen, and TONS more!
With the rising popularity of gender-blind wedding parties, and weddings without bridal parties, we need terms beyond “bridesmaids” and “groomsmen” to refer to the people who are helping you with all your wedding duties. Here are a few of the creative alternative names for bridal parties that our readers and Tribesmaids have come up with
Will you be our Companions?: Whovian wedding party proposal boxes
These wedding party proposal boxes were loosely based off the idea of those cute “Be My Maid” boxes that regularly pop up on Pinterest, as well as the awesome spin-offs I’ve seen on Offbeat Bride. Since we are having a Doctor Who wedding, the boxes had to be Whovian.
How to propose to your “wedding crew” with pirate-themed booze-y gifts
Instead of bridesmaids or groomsmen we’re having a Wedding Crew. Which, seeing as how 90% of us met via our Pirate Kickball League (underground/rebel pirate more than “yaaar!” Pirate) we thought it was fitting to go with the pirate theme for this little project. Hope this inspires you to do something fun for your crew if you have the time and the desire to do so!
Tough conversations about marriage: why an online prenup is a good start
Recently, an old friend of mine decided to have a non-legal commitment ceremony… a commitzvah, they called it. For various reasons, she and her dude decided they didn’t want to legally get married, but you know what they did instead? They sat down with a lawyer, and had some really, really difficult conversations and worked out a legally-binding commitment agreement. Conversations about money. Conversations about children and aging parents. Conversations about fidelity and divorce. Realistically, because they opted to build their legally-binding commitment from scratch, they had conversations that many of us planning state-recognized marriages don’t have.
Dragons, tattoos, cakes, and taking the plunge in this week’s Reader Round-Up
This photo from our Offbeat Bride Flickr pool is killing me, y’all. But wait ’til you catch a glimpse of Stephanie’s visible back tattoo, oh and Tribesmaid Chloebell’s outfit change, and another Tribesmaid’s cheesecake pinwheels, and an under-water Save the Date, and a photo from the SCOTUS Rally for Marriage Equality that made me cry…