How to write wedding vows about quantum entanglement

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Remember Cristina and Raymond's dark gothic wedding (dark in aesthetic only… it was a huge bright spot for us!) from last fall? Well, their tender quantum entanglement wedding vows are so heartfelt that they needed their own post. Seriously, grab a box of tissues… these vows might just bring on the waterworks, while still managing to crack a smile, too. Especially Ray's vows 😭 Seriously, if you're a groom trying to figure out how to write wedding vows to your new wife, TAKE NOTES!

Cristina's Vows:

Ray, our love feels so deep that it seems impossible that two people could ever love each other the way that we do. I know people always think that about their relationship, but like, seriously. The joy you’ve brought me is immeasurable. You love me in ways I never realized I deserved or thought I could ever obtain. Through the love you’ve shown me, you make me see myself in a better light than I ever have. Plus, you’re handsome as hell and I’m so happy I get to look at you all the time.

I vow to always maintain gratitude for everything you do to improve my day to day life; from washing dishes because I’m unreasonably grossed out by dirty plates to grabbing something off a top shelf because I can’t reach anything and I’m too lazy to grab a step stool. You spoil me because you love me and I promise I will never take that for granted.

I vow to forever do all the sickeningly sweet things we do: all the flirty comments, all the cuddles, the thousand “I love yous” a day.

I vow to always think it’s cute that you see the wonder in the subtle, like ants on a tree or a sticker on a bike rack.

I vow to always allow us to have cats, as long as you hold up your end of the bargain and allow us to have dogs. You are the sweetest and most loving co-human to our pets and that melts my heart every single day.

I vow to take you as you are now and for who you will be in the years to come. We don’t know what will come with the world only getting scarier and nature trying to seek its revenge, but I know that whether we grow long, healthy lives together or if we get wiped out in some terrible natural disaster, I’ll be by your side until the end. I’ve always said that in some crazy apocalyptic event happens, I have no will to try and I would end it all, but you know what, for you, I’ll try to survive.

I promise to celebrate your triumphs and mourn your losses as though they were my own. When you’re happy, I’m thrilled. When you’re sad, I’m devastated, and I intend to live my life that way until the end.

I promise to do all the work it will take to turn today into always. Life is hard and often so, so stupid, but it’s so much more bearable with you in it and for that reason I want to keep you close, always.

I vow to be truthful, even when the truth can be hard to speak, and to keep an open mind when your truth is not something I want to hear.

I promise not to suddenly get all religious on you or start eating animals. Our shared morals and values are the backbone of our relationship and I’m so glad to get to be with someone that I know will always prioritize logic and the belief that the choices that cause the least suffering are the best ones.

I promise to be your partner, not possessing you but walking alongside you as an equal. I’ll nurture your interests and embrace your individuality. I love us, but most of all, I love you.

I invite you to share my life with me and I promise to work every day to make sure it’s the best decision you’ll ever make. I vow everything to you, Ray, the best right-swipe of my life.

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Ray's Vows:

Cristina, there’s a concept in physics called quantum entanglement, in which two particles are permanently bound and no matter how great the distance between them or what forces move to drive them apart, their connection can never be broken, and whatever affects one also affects the other.

That has no relevance to this situation. I mean even if my description hadn’t been wildly inaccurate, it’s just objectively incorrect for me to claim it has anything to do with us. But the fact is, that no words could ever truly describe the way I feel for you, the vastness of my love for you, nor how deeply I care about you. So you’ll have to forgive the scientific inaccuracy when I say that our hearts feel quantumly entangled.

Until I met you, I didn’t even think it was possible that someone could make me so happy or that I could love someone as much as I love you. Literally no one has ever lived that I would rather be with and it’s hard to describe just how lucky I am that I get to spend the rest of my life with you and that I get to see a side of you that no one else gets to see. It’s a privilege I wouldn’t give that up for anything.

The truth is, I’m probably not good enough for you. I can’t vow I’ll never eat more than my fair share of the food we both pay for, but I’ll do my best to have dinner waiting for you when you’ve had an extra long day at work. I can’t vow I’ll never overreact when one of the dogs pees on something they’re not supposed to, but I promise to take pictures whenever I catch them being extra cute. I can’t vow that I won’t ever forget important dates, because we both know I have a memory like a goldfish with dementia.

But I can vow this… I will always love you.

Even after my heart stops beating and every last cell in my brain has ceased all metabolic activity, I will always love you. Until our sun goes supernova and the Earth is nothing but dust. Until every star in our galaxy fades and goes cold, I vow I will always love you.

I love you.

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