How we’re making a Swedish kissing tradition into a poly-friendly, queer-friendly wedding ritual
My fiancé and I hold ethical non-monogamy as one of the values at the core of our relationship. So we are determined to make sure that value is represented at our microwedding. While researching wedding customs traditional to our ethnic backgrounds, we discovered that there actually exists a ritual that’s time-honored, joyful, culturally-specific, and non-monogamous…
The Swedish kissing tradition!
Finding poly-friendly wedding songs (that AREN’T about forsaking all others)
My fiancé and I practice ethical non-monogamy. We prefer this term to polyamory, but sure, you can call us poly if you want to. We had a discussion of how many songs are out there are about “forsaking all others,” something we definitely are not including in our vows. It’s a common theme in popular songs: now that I’m with you, I promise not to look at anyone else, think about anyone else, etc. Here is how we’re including poly-friendly wedding songs in our playlists…
Unsolicited wedding advice: How to create a win/win situation
I recently read an article addressing the psychology behind unsolicited advice. The article focused on a research paper titled “Advice Giving: A Subtle Pathway to Power,” which confirms what most of us have likely suspected: unsolicited advice more for the benefit of the adviser than the advisee. So how can you work with this to make unsolicited advice less irritating, and more helpful?
Do I need to invite someone’s adult child to my microwedding?
My sister wants us to invite her boyfriend’s adult daughter to our wedding, even though we’ve never met her. Her family already accounts for five invitations for her household already.
We have worked so hard to keep our wedding small and intimate and quite frankly don’t want a stranger there. Are we being selfish?