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How can I make sure guests please DON’T stand for the Bride?

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One of the unspoken wedding traditions that drives me nuts is when everyone stands up for the bride. I know it’s an old tradition and it’s a respect thing (or something like that. I’m not totally positive of the background). But why just for the Bride? Is anyone planning/have you seen anyone address this? Do you ask the guests to remain seated? Do you ask them to stand as the groom comes down the aisle?

everyone (except for me, my dad, and everyone sitting under the balcony)
One of the unspoken wedding traditions that drives me nuts is when everyone stands up for the bride.

I know it’s an old tradition and it’s a respect thing (or something like that. I’m not totally positive of the background). But why just for the Bride?

Is anyone planning/have you seen anyone address this? Do you ask the guests to remain seated? Do you ask them to stand as the groom comes down the aisle? -beccamink

Your shorter guests certainly will thank you for this! (As one Offbeat Bride Tribe member said, “So out of respect of the shorter individuals, everyone can SIT THE FUCK DOWN.”) Our best suggestion would be to put a note in the program or have your officiant say something (possibly something funny) to let guests know.

Don’t want people to stand up when you walk in? How are you telling guests?

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