Did you get laid off before the wedding? This happens more often than you think. One former bride recounts how she and her now husband were both laid off in the midst of wedding planning, and how they navigated life leading up to the wedding day.
We knew from the start that our wedding wasn’t going to be very much like the ones you see on TV. We were two butch lesbians, for one, so even the gay wedding media I so desperately sought out rarely depicted couples that looked like us. Then COVID hit, and then spread, and everything changed…
Not everyone has dreamed of a big wedding. So when you’re confronted with the planning of one, there might be some lessons learned the hard way: “If you want to have a gorgeous and huge wedding with all the trimmings, go for it! But if you’re more like me, who never really thought hard about a wedding until you were with your life partner, and you love the outdoors, more intimate ceremonies, and really just can’t wait to marry the love of your life without all the trappings of a more traditional wedding, I’ve got your back…”
I considered myself to be an “ordinary bride,” that is until my mother died, and then I discovered that the definition of normalcy is what you deem appropriate, especially when it comes to wedding planning.
Life continues to happen even as we plan weddings. Alysson and Adam’s circumstances led them to make a pretty huge choice. They decided to get married at Hackensack University Medical Center to be with Alysson’s ailing father. Photographer Stefanie Murphy had received an inquiry for a “last minute wedding ceremony” and soon realized that it was imperative that she take it.
I hope you’re wearing waterproof mascara for this one, y’all…
My husband died seven months after our wedding. The most important lesson I learned from our wedding is that when it really comes down to it, your marriage is more important than your wedding.
What I want to share with other Offbeat Bride readers is that if you are lucky enough to have found someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, the rest of details don’t really matter.