How we’re talking to religious guests unsure if they want to attend our lesbian wedding
Now, you and I both know that it’s the same as any other wedding (or as different as every other wedding, as the case may be). But within our community, it’s kind of a rare thing. I mean, this will be MY first two-bride wedding! We have specific people who have issues with our relationship for religious reasons and I wanted to offer a non-confrontational way to talk about that subject and maybe squeeze out a few “yeses” from those who are on the fence.
Why we had a very, very gay wedding (not “just a wedding”)
One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren’t “gay” or “straight,” they’re just weddings. Of course, that’s true… but our wedding was also very, very gay, and that was one of our favorite things about it!
In the fight for marriage equality, there’s a risk that the thing that makes queer lives different will get lost in the shuffle. We wanted to celebrate the gayness of gay weddings and the importance of our broad family-of-choice to our lives. We ended up writing the following passage and printing it in our wedding program:
Let’s talk about “getting legalled”
Ok, so we’ve long been fans of the concept of “getting weddinged,” the act of having a wedding after you’re already legally married. But one of our twitter followers @ayahthetiger recently asked us, what do you call it when (thanks to the shifting marriage equality laws), couples do the reverse? If you’ve already had the non-legal wedding ceremony, what do you call it when you head down to the courthouse to make it official?
The best thing we could come up with was GETTING LEGALLED.
Cecil & Paul’s animals, vuvuzelas, and NERF war wedding
You’re probably looking at the title of this wedding and tilting your head a bit. But don’t worry, it all makes sense when you know the theme of this wedding is pure, unadulterated FUN! Animal-themed tables, food truck tacos, and rock-paper-scissors start off the good times, but the giant NERF gun war at the reception kept it all going strong into the night!