Our wedding was full of tears and imperfection… and I loved it
Our wedding day was not perfect. It was waaay colder than expected, our venue had half a dozen hiccups, there was one trip to the hospital, one birth, and one rival college football game. But when people ask me how my wedding was, all I can say is “like a dream.” Then I ache and wish it was three times longer and I could live it ten more times over.
The post-wedding sexism guide: Be prepared for these bizarre encounters…
You might not notice it now, because our culture appears besotted with the search for The One and having that Big Fat Dream Wedding, but marriage doesn’t have the greatest reputation. Wives are even more unpopular. I read every blog going about being a feminist bride but I didn’t come across anything about being a feminist wife, and as a result I was thoroughly unprepared for the post-wedding sexism I was about to encounter. If you’re about to get married, it might pay to be prepared for some of the bizarre encounters you are probably going to have with friends, family and colleagues in the days and weeks after the wedding. So here’s the scoop…
My one wedding regret: Not hiring the vendor we purposely cut
Through planning our wedding, we nixed a lot of vendors and traditions we didn’t think fit us.
I made our cake, we had no flowers, we self-DJed, and we didn’t have a videographer. All of this was in an effort to save money, but also have the wedding we wanted instead of producing some generic details we would never remember 15 years down the road.
And now my one regret is not hiring a videographer. Here’s why…
We’re ALL struggling: How I realized “the picture perfect relationship” is a lie
We were married three months and already talking about divorce, seriously?! There were times when I just wanted to give up and walk away, broken. I felt like I was failing this imaginary test.
It seems as though there’s a weird phenomenon that happens to some of us after marriage. We act out, and hurt the one we love most because we don’t know what else to do. It happened to me, my friend, and I know it’s happening to many other people out there. That’s why I wanted to write this. I wanted to let you know, if you are going through a rough patch after your wedding, you’re not alone. The pressure of this “idyllic marriage,” that’s what happened.