High-femme-queen or a little bit rustic? Sometimes I feel like a kid “playing Bride”
My fiancée and I were talking the other day about our wedding, and it kind of feels like we are playing pretend. Ok, y’all, we actually are grown-ass people. We are both 34 years old. I will be 35 in not-that-long. We have both been married before. We know what we’re getting ourselves into. But I still feel like a kid playing Bride.
How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning
Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I’m always like “I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don’t want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!” Here’s why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.
Body-positive bridal: What if I look stunning and I accept myself for who I really am?
You know how sometimes there’s nothing in the fridge, or in the closet, or on the radio? That’s how I felt like my own clothes weren’t fitting. The zipper zipped and the button buttoned, but the person in the mirror looked ill-fit, wrongly-dressed, confused, and fraudulent.
Maintenance-shaming: You don’t have to pretend you’re so cool that you’re “over” your own wedding
Upon hearing that I want my hair and makeup done, people say, “but you’re so low-maintenance.” So I have invented a term for what I’m going through: “maintenance-shaming.”
Maintenance-shaming is essentially telling a woman that she should not make a fuss about traditionally feminine things, or really that she shouldn’t make a fuss about anything.