I’m changing my first AND last name after marriage
Did I want to keep having the same tiresome, negative conversation with every new person that I meet? Not really. Is changing my entire name going to be incredibly inconvenient? Most certainly, in terms of process, costs, and social confusion. Is my happiness worth the inconvenience? When I asked myself that question, the answer was a resounding YES. Additionally, I now have no problem taking my partner’s (delightful) last name when I will also be taking my own first name, on my own terms.
The wrong way to make a bouquet? Learning to accept help and relinquish wedding control
I haven’t been asking for help, I haven’t been delegating, and I’ve been overwhelmed and drowning in an endless sea of paperwork and DIY projects. I’ve been so worried about letting people help because I feel like only I know what the end result is “supposed” to be, and I’m scared that if someone else makes something it won’t be “right.” This is where my thinking needs to change…
High-femme-queen or a little bit rustic? Sometimes I feel like a kid “playing Bride”
My fiancée and I were talking the other day about our wedding, and it kind of feels like we are playing pretend. Ok, y’all, we actually are grown-ass people. We are both 34 years old. I will be 35 in not-that-long. We have both been married before. We know what we’re getting ourselves into. But I still feel like a kid playing Bride.
How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning
Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I’m always like “I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don’t want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!” Here’s why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.