Body-positive bridal: What if I look stunning and I accept myself for who I really am?
You know how sometimes there’s nothing in the fridge, or in the closet, or on the radio? That’s how I felt like my own clothes weren’t fitting. The zipper zipped and the button buttoned, but the person in the mirror looked ill-fit, wrongly-dressed, confused, and fraudulent.
Maintenance-shaming: You don’t have to pretend you’re so cool that you’re “over” your own wedding
Upon hearing that I want my hair and makeup done, people say, “but you’re so low-maintenance.” So I have invented a term for what I’m going through: “maintenance-shaming.”
Maintenance-shaming is essentially telling a woman that she should not make a fuss about traditionally feminine things, or really that she shouldn’t make a fuss about anything.
Subdue the Planzilla: or why I need to stop trying to plan everything and love the engagement
I am a Planzilla. I love planning things. I love planning things way way way in advance. I could quite happily start planning for my wedding right now and get all the planning done by myself. But here’s where the problem lies…
How “all about the bride” is not about the bride at all
I knew going into wedding planning that there would be a lot of cooks in the kitchen, we knew there would be a few things where we just couldn’t compromise and would have to put our collective foot down. I offered, early on, to be the bad guy in these situations, since I could just say “I’m the bride, and this is what I want.” Turns out, no one cares if I’m the bride unless I want what “the bride” is supposed to want in their minds. “I” have been erased from the process. Let me give you some examples…