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How do you deal with vendors who ignore grooms?

I know you guys have written before about wedding vendors who totally ignore grooms, but I’m looking for some super practical, step-by-step guidance on how to make it clear to my vendors that if they keep ignoring my fiance, they stand to lose our business.

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My dress doesn’t define me: How a tomboy learned to love taffeta

I have always been a tomboy. That’s not to say that I’ve never worn a dress before; I do like to get “dressed up,” but my definition of dressed up doesn’t match most of society’s definition. Now I love a pretty dress as much as the next girl, but trying to find a wedding gown that suited my personality and my budget was one of the hardest things about planning my wedding. I hated everything. I didn’t want a formfitting dress but somehow I couldn’t fit the notion of those giant cupcake dresses in with my lack of femininity.

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Big production proposals and being true to you

Like so many of you here on Offbeat Bride, I was never one of those girls who dreamed about what her wedding would be like. I never dreamed about getting married in a big white dress and having children and buying a home. My partner G knew this about me and was fine that I had no pointed interest in getting a ring on my finger on any sort of timeline. I’d said that many times over the first couple years together and one of the sweetest things he ever said was, “Well, if I thought you wanted to get married I would have asked you a long time ago. If you ever change your mind you’ll have ask me. So after nearly six years together I did just that.

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Let’s put an end to exclusionary language and sexist vendors in the wedding industry

In which an event planner gets worked up over the poor treatment of grooms in the Wedding Industrial Complex and while she rages against the machine, she also gives us tips on how YOU can help put an end to sexist vendors.

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What do you wear to your wedding when you’re transgender and love drag?

Our wedding is an all-day affair, carnival-style, ending in a sunset ceremony with a late night afterparty reception. We decided that this required at least three changes of clothes. But… we have a little gender problem.

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Musings from an offbeat groom: I DON’T want to be on the sidelines, bored, or pitied

In which we have the rare guest post from a groom! Offbeat Bride Tribe member Caleb speaks up about what it’s like being a groom, and an offbeat groom at that…