Pronouns & assumptions: Gay wedding etiquette rules every guest should follow
Maybe you’re a seasoned pro at attending same-sex weddings or maybe they’re a new concept for you, and you don’t want to be responsible for any awkwardness on someone’s wedding day. It’s easy to fall prey to a faux pas when it comes to saying the right things. Understand that the basics, love and respect, remain the same for both straight and LGBTQ weddings.
Here are six gay wedding etiquette rules that will make you the couple’s favorite…
Should I be a nonbinary bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding?
My sister has asked me to a bridesmaid. I’m deeply estranged from the majority of my extended relatives. She’s turning this wedding into a family reunion (300+ guests). I thought I had enough to worry about with being nonbinary and potentially needing to deal with gender dysphoria on the day, but many of these relatives are horrendously bigoted as well. Part of me wants to say fuck it and be outrageously myself as a nonbinary bridesmaid… but my anxious self fears for my safety. I’m not out to everyone.Should I ask to be demoted from bridesmaid to “regular guest” status so I can have full choice over what I wear?
This wedding is super gay! 5 ways to make your wedding gay as hell
It’s Pride Month, y’all, and everyone should be giving props to the LGBTQ community and their weddings. Well, not everyone.
Some folks have concerns about the concept of a “gay wedding” because hey: aren’t they just weddings? We get that, of course, but we feature some weddings where couples themselves VERY specifically want to embrace their wedding AND its gayness. So if you’re into self-identified Very Very Gay Weddings, this roundup of ideas is for yooooou!
Which states have gender neutral marriage certificates?
I’m non-binary, and she’s binary trans. Neither of us have done anything to medically or therapeutically transition and probably won’t be any time soon. We were both born and currently live in Tennessee, so even if we did medically transition, I’m pretty sure we’re out of luck when it comes to changing our birth certificates. It would be ideal to have a marriage license that uses gender neutral terms like “partner” or “spouse.”
Are there any states which have gender neutral marriage certificate language?