Tales from a feminist officiant: why I refuse to ask who’s giving you away
I am often asked about what I won’t do for a wedding. My response is usually that I have no pride and no shame, so it isn’t an issue, but once or twice I had to think it over. The first time, I was asked to wear nude lipstick. It doesn’t sound too horrifying until you read about it here. This begs the question: what won’t I do?
The post-wedding sexism guide: Be prepared for these bizarre encounters…
You might not notice it now, because our culture appears besotted with the search for The One and having that Big Fat Dream Wedding, but marriage doesn’t have the greatest reputation. Wives are even more unpopular. I read every blog going about being a feminist bride but I didn’t come across anything about being a feminist wife, and as a result I was thoroughly unprepared for the post-wedding sexism I was about to encounter. If you’re about to get married, it might pay to be prepared for some of the bizarre encounters you are probably going to have with friends, family and colleagues in the days and weeks after the wedding. So here’s the scoop…
How do you hope chest as an Offbeat Bride?
Older members of my family are asking about my hope chest… Do you have anything to put in your hope chest? and There’s a linens sale coming up if you want to pick up some things for your hope chest. I haven’t considered a hope chest at all, and really that the concept of having a hope chest from a young age freaks me out a little. But here’s where things get complicated…
News flash: Being a woman doesn’t mean I know how to plan weddings
While I am a cisgender woman, I do not always adhere to the expectations of my gender (like many women). While I’ve come to terms with it in most parts of my life, there is something about the wedding process that shoves it in your face again and again and again…
While many vendors have been kind with my ignorance once I flat-out own it, there seems to be a constant, persistent expectation that I should have more of this wedding thing figured out, or that my double-X chromosome has given me fluency in this secret wedding language.