Reconciling marriage as a feminist: Does everything about the wedding have to be a feminist battle?
I feel that each of the choices we make for our wedding need to be conscious choices. We need to weigh the comfort of tradition against the statement (overt or otherwise) that it may make. Not every feminist wedding is going to look the same — and certainly one can be a feminist and have a more “traditional” wedding. I don’t decide who is a feminist and who is not — I only get to determine how my feminism manifests itself.
Carly & Travis’ Southern feminist love party
Carly from Two Spoons Photography, and her beau celebrated their amazing love (started at summer camp!) with an awesome alternative to a traditional ceremony: a series of toasts from loved ones and to each other. D’aww. Plus, their friends each brought their own DIY flair to the decor, food, MCing, guest book, and even the live music!
When your culture is counter-culture: Lovingly explaining your more traditional wedding choices
Offbeat Bride has some wonderful, “Thank you for your interest but I’ve already decided” conflict resolution posts that apply to pretty much anything. But here are some specific scenarios if you, like me, find yourself a little bit too onbeat for others’ likings.
On feminism, marriage equality, and my impending marriage
My impending marriage has certainly forced me to confront expectations, and to articulate and affirm the values and ideas which I hold most dear. For me, these would be feminism and marriage equality. However, the prospect of my impending marriage (to a lovely, understanding, open-minded and progressive straight cis-man) has forced me to clarify my perspectives on these two ideas to a much greater extent than ever before. In the process, I have become even firmer in my support of these two positions. Why has my position on feminism and marriage equality been strengthened? I’ll explain.
A feminist’s struggle (and secret loophole) with an impending proposal
While I consider myself a feminist, I fear that I too have fallen victim to the antiquated societal norm regarding wedding proposals. I have recently found myself waiting with bated breath for a proposal that I know is coming soon. I’ve come up with a secret solution in order to in order to stick to my liberal foundations. But deciding to officially become engaged to be married is a big choice, and I wonder why we have both decided that he is the only one in the relationship who can fully prepare for this event.
Julie & Paul’s farm fresh and sassy wedding
After two years of life and natural disasters delaying the wedding, these hunter/gatherers finally tied the knot at their own gorgeous home in Nova Scotia. With their own foliage (and some lingerie!) as decor, a doggie ring bearer, a fake roadkill-style menu, an actual seafood dinner, and the kissy-face couple themselves, I don’t even know what you’ll love most. Let’s just go with everything!