Wedding backlash and being accountable for your choices
Wedding planning is all about making a crapload of choices. Even those couples who do their utmost to avoid making every single decision still have to face some choices. Dudes, some of those choices are tough ones. And we can talk forever about etiquette, or rules, or best practices, but real life comes with choices that don’t always fit into nice boxes. The thing is, when you make a big decision, especially about an event like a wedding, people have major feels about it. MAJOR FEELS. And when it comes to weddings, we often want to seek advice but we also often get unsolicited advice. In the face of that, you need to be prepared to be accountable.
The wedding industry isn’t targeting you… it’s targeting your parents
One thing that my time working as telemarketer gave me — other than a very black conscience — is understanding about how different generations process and interpret media.
We spend a lot of time here laughing about the Wedding Industrial Complex, and we should, because it’s fucking hilarious. But it’s not really directed at us. It’s directed at our mothers.
Hair color judgments: when you’re invited to a wedding, but your hair color isn’t welcome?
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt judged? I attended my very dear friends’ rehearsal and it was very clear, from the moment I set foot in the ceremony space, that there were a number of people displeased with my particular choice in hair dye jobs. Afterwards I was informed that my blue hair — the blue hair that I’ve had for about five years now — is not welcome by the People Paying For The Wedding. Here’s what I did when faced with that sad reality…
Caitlin & Kaitlyn’s secret garden lesbian wedding
This is one of those weddings where some family drama has a silver lining and a a happy alternative ending. It also has lots of geektastic references to Doctor Who and Tolkien, of which I totally approve. It’s obvious that these two have an awesome community of love helping them create and celebrate.