Historically, parents paying for a wedding has ugly cultural baggage. For this reason, I am against the idea of anyone’s parents being obliged or asked to pay for their children’s wedding.
I am an international adoptee from India. Many times in transracial and/or international adoption, the adoptee loses a sense of identity when they are raised outside of their race and culture. I know for myself, I was raised in a predominantly white town by a white family, so I lost my identity as an Indian. As a bride, I decided to reclaim my identity. I am a “hybrid”, both Indian and Anglo-American…
I considered myself to be an “ordinary bride,” that is until my mother died, and then I discovered that the definition of normalcy is what you deem appropriate, especially when it comes to wedding planning.
My sister wants us to invite her boyfriend’s adult daughter to our wedding, even though we’ve never met her. Her family already accounts for five invitations for her household already.
We have worked so hard to keep our wedding small and intimate and quite frankly don’t want a stranger there. Are we being selfish?
When it comes to gift-giving, the general consensus among my peers is that you give what you can, if you wish. As far as we’re concerned, your presence is present enough — especially considering that we are a bunch of broke Millennials.
My extended family, however, hardcore-believes in tangible gifts. Some of them are sticklers for the traditional (and comfortably middle-class) notion of extensive and expensive gifts at shower, hen party, and wedding. It’s generous, but also uncomfortable, at odds with our values, and not always string-free. How can I discourage gifts at my wedding?
I went on a hunt for less trite sibling wedding songs and definitely ran into some. Although in some cases, those sappy songs are actually kind of perfect? For instance, I LOVE “When We Grow Up” even those it’s schmaltzy as hell. Here are some of our favorite sibling wedding songs for brothers and sisters…