Goodbye, micromanaging bride: How a Latin exam helped me calm down for the wedding day
As the day of the exam approached, Professor Rigg sat us down and told us that the day before the exam, we should not open our books. We should have a good dinner and get a full night’s sleep. “There is nothing you can do in the last twenty-four hours that will change how well you do on the exam,” he said. “By the time you’ve reached that point, either you know Latin well enough to succeed, or you don’t. No amount of cramming will help you.” The point of this long metaphor is that this has been my attitude towards wedding planning…
My relationship is not a statement: Stop viewing our wedding decisions as some sort of socio-political performance
It started with the oh-so-popular taking of my husband’s last name question. The reason I really wanted to keep my own name had nothing to do with feminist ideals — I simply like the sound of my own name. Needless to say, this was just the first of MANY questions I’ve answered with similar responses.I’ve learned that no matter how I respond, someone will view it as a statement. All we’re really trying to do is throw a beautiful and fun wedding with all of our friends and family. Our relationship is a relationship… not a statement open for critique.
How to be an offbeat bridesmaid for a traditional bride
I know this is a space for Offbeat Brides, and not so long ago I was an one, but is there any advice to be had for those of us who are offbeat bridesmaids for more traditional brides? When my most recent engaged friend asked me to be a part of her day as a bridesmaid I was thrilled! But now… some things are making my uncomfortable. How do I explain to my bride that I want to be a part of her day, but don’t want to compromise myself in the process?
What Game of Thrones can teach us about the “perfect” wedding
Let’s talk about the “perfect” wedding. Why do we all hear (and use) this term for everything when we plan a wedding? It wasn’t until I was re-watching the first season of Game of Thrones that I caught just how dumb it sounds.