Weddings: the petri dish of family drama
All sorts of your interests and lifestyle choices probably seem a little odd to your family, but until you’re planning a wedding, it’s easier to ignore the differences. It’s not until you have the combination of two families coming together, social anxiety, financial considerations, religious and cultural traditions that all these things are forced up into your face.
Aesthetic vs. identity: how cool are you with changing your look as a bridesmaid?
Remember this post about how to be an offbeat bridesmaid in a traditional wedding and where to draw the line with changing your look to suit the bride’s wishes? If you’re reading this site, chances are you’ve been there. Maybe more than once. We’ve got some follow-up real talk from reader Vanda that we needed to share…
Planning a neurodivergent & introvert-friendly wedding when you’re an extrovert
Introverts and neurodivergent folks can have an internal conflict over their wedding days — they want to celebrate their relationship, sometimes feeling challenged when they’re in the spotlight. Here are some of our best tips for accommodating both sides of the coin and planning an introvert-friendly wedding.
Fights about weddings will happen, here’s how to work your politics into the compromise
I wish I read this post about consensual bridal showers when I first got engaged. I wouldn’t have felt so “wrong” when I came across the same scenario… I tried to be polite. I tried to kindly turn it down. That didn’t work. Then things got ugly. This is when I had a big realization… These fights about weddings will exist no matter how hard I try. But there are ways to work your politics into the compromise.
Who the hell cares: important lessons from partners who aren’t as interested in wedding planning
One detail that’s been plaguing me ever since I bought my dress has been figuring out what I’m going to do with the length. So I go back and forth, back and forth, on this decision. The past six weeks or so, I was gung-ho about getting it shortened. Then, one night, I was telling my partner about how I was once again reconsidering. While I listed out the pros and cons of leaving my dress full-length, I could see his eyes begin to glaze over. “Mm-hmm,” he said as I talked, stifling a yawn. Which was when I realized: Who the hell cares?
I took off my ring yesterday
I took my ring off yesterday… I needed one day, just one, where I really considered whether this marriage was something I wanted. Throughout the in-law drama I would ask my my fiancé if he was absolutely sure he wanted to marry me. I realized I’d never really considered the question myself.