Mandy & Jamie’s skulls and roses cottage wedding

The offbeat bride: Mandy, floral and web designer

Her offbeat partner: Jamie, chef

Date and location of wedding: My parent’s cottage and Nordlaw Lodge, Westport, ON — August 13, 2011

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: I work as a florist, and working in the wedding industry and hearing the words “simple and elegant” all the time was what really convinced me to go our own way. We chose to follow our gothic and rustic styles to suit our ceremony and reception locations. I also didn’t believe in spending all of our money on one day, so we set a $5000 budget for 70 people and I made sure every step of the way we were on par to meet our budget.

Flowers were one of the top priorities for me, and they were a gift from my mom. But I got to pick out the selections for the bouquets and boutonnieres.

For the rest of the decor, we DIYed as much as possible. We made 50+ Martha Stewart coffin box favours, skull chocolates (made using skull-shaped ice cube trays), a large coffin-shaped card box complete with studs, studded ribbon to go around our cake tiers and bouquets, designed invitations, designed the wedsite with custom gift registry and RSVP, wine labels, and handmade fascinators for me and the girls.

Tell us about the ceremony: We had a non-denominational ceremony mostly written by us, and I chose to have both of my parents walk me down the aisle as they are equally important to me.

We chose to do a rose ceremony. I had never heard of it before meeting our officiant but she had included it in some sample ceremonies she sent us. Dark red roses are one of my favorite flowers, so this type of ceremony seemed fitting. We now have them dried in a vase in our living room which will always be a nice reminder of our ceremony.

Our biggest challenge: The biggest challenge was not exceeding our budget. I learned quickly that we could save a lot by having our wedding outside of the city. Small towns charge a lot less for most services, and we definitely saved a lot there. For example, the cost for hair-styling for me AND my two bridesmaids was a total of $170.

Our initial photographer would have cost half our budget, so we were in a bit of a panic trying to find another one in the last couple of months of planning. We checked out eBay Classifieds and found one who was more within our budget.

My favorite moment: It was very meaningful to me that our ceremony was held at my parent’s cottage with only 20 people in attendance (the rest came for the reception). Originally we were going to have the ceremony at the same location as our reception with all of our guests, but the significance of having it at our family cottage and having an intimate ceremony was much more important to us.

Also, getting ready at the hair salon with all the girls in the morning was great. I knew the exact times that I had set out on our schedule would not be met, so I just let everything be. Once all of our hair was done, we picked up some smoothies at the small cafe next door and made our way back to do our makeup. It was so nice being in town that morning and really reminded me that I’m a small town girl at heart.

My funniest moment: One of the funniest moments was during my maid of honour/sister’s speech. She pulled out a pair of her blue panties claiming I needed my “something old and something blue.” Also, during the groom’s parents’ speech, they brought out his time-out chair when he was young. Who knew props would be a big thing during the speeches?

My advice for Offbeat Brides: For brides having a budget wedding, I would recommend having a longer engagement to give you enough time to do a lot of research to find those great deals. Plus, the small town versus big city costs were a lifesaver, if you have that option.

What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? We were told by certain family members that the guests who were excluded from the ceremony would be really upset and would no longer invite us to family gatherings. But it turned out that nobody was mad at all. I’m glad we just didn’t do everything for everybody else and end up regretting it, only to have those “consequences” not actually pan out.

Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?

• Photography: Christopher Steven B. Photography
• Bride’s dress: Le Chateau
• Bride’s shoes: Iron Fist
• Bridesmaid’s Dresses: Sears
• Cake: Kakes by Judy
• Flowers: Trillium Floral Designs

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