Should you attend the wedding of a couple you arent inviting to yours

OPEN THREAD: Should you attend the wedding of a couple you aren’t inviting to yours?

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I was invited to a wedding of two friends. My girlfriend and I agree that when we get married this couple wouldn’t be on our invite list (for two reasons: because we want a smaller wedding, and because we’re really not that close with them). Knowing this, should we go to their wedding?

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Hi Offbeat Army! I need a little advice.

I was invited to a wedding of two friends — actually more like acquaintances — who are getting married this spring. Though I don’t know for sure, I think they’re having a big wedding. My girlfriend and I agree that when we get married this couple wouldn’t be on our invite list (for two reasons: because we want a smaller wedding, and because we’re really not that close with them).

Knowing this, should we go to their wedding? -Ltn318

Is it right to go to someone’s wedding when you know you won’t invite them to yours?

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