Why are so many offbeat weddings low-budget?
I’ve noticed that the majority of the weddings you feature are budget weddings. Not all of them, certainly, but quite a lot. I would imagine that even more of them get submitted than get featured.
Why are so many offbeat weddings lower-budget weddings? What is it about budget and offbeat that seem to go hand-in-hand? Is it the craftiness of the general offbeat community? Is it that we’re so broke we have to automatically eliminate almost everything and can only work back in the things that really matter? Is it that we have too many hobbies that eat up all the spare cash we could put towards a wedding?
Airs of indifference and being “too cool” for this wedding stuff
I have this idea that I should be embarrassed about wanting a wedding. I keep pretending to care less than I do. Insisting that my dress isn’t a big deal — I’ll still get to get married, even if I don’t look pretty doing it. If our retired-baker friend has plans and we don’t get a cake, that’ll be okay, since we can always get a sheet cake from the grocery story. Flowers? Who needs ’em? It reminds me of when I was a senior in high school, and I wanted desperately to go to the prom, but had to act like I was too cool to actually care.
Moving forward with wedding planning after losing a parent
After experiencing an amazingly beautiful moment when my dearest asked me to be his wife, I am now trying to cope with the unexpected loss of my mom, and the deep need to move forward with my wedding. The question I have been asked constantly since the passing of my mom has been, “are you still getting married this year?” My answer has been emphatically “yes.”
The unexpected way wedding magazines helped me realize the wedding I want
I bought a couple of magazines for my wedding. One was a copy of Martha Stewart Weddings magazine. That Martha mag was a little bit of the Wedding Industrial Complex reaching out and grabbing me and pulling me in. And it taught me few very important things…
Half our guests said no: Seeing the positives to an itty bitty guest list
More than half our guest list is unable to attend our wedding. As a result, we’ve gone from having a small wedding to having a microscopic one. I keep waffling between thoughts of, “This is awesome!” and, “Ohfuckohfuck, what will people think?!” I want to kick these negative thoughts about our compact wedding to the curb. They’re untrue, and they only serve to make me feel bad. I don’t deserve to feel bad. I’m a fantastic person hosting a fantastic wedding. In the name of positivity, here’s a list of everything that can be awesome about itty bitty weddings:
How divorce has positively affected my wedding planning
My parents and my future husband are all divorced. And this is probably going to sound like a really odd, coming from someone planning her first, and hopefully only wedding. But I wanted to share some thoughts I had on how divorce has, in fact, positively affected my wedding planning process.