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Advice

Wedding advice and etiquette can be a weird thing, especially when you’re talking about alternative and offbeat weddings. We pride ourselves on our compassionate focus on constructive, respectful communication and focus on conflict resolution.

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Play a “stand up/sit down” game at your wedding reception

Jamie and Evan had planned a big outdoor game-fest, but some nasty, rainy weather pushed them indoors. The good thing was that they had an indoor elimination game planned with a really special prize.

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So I canceled my wedding…

I was nearly there, you know. I’d bought a second hand dress and Irregular Choice shoes. I had booked my venue and I was organising my independent honeymoon to India. I had invited just eight people to my little ceremony. I had made 500 paper cranes for my Senbazuru decoration. I had chosen music and a menu and started to stockpile little bits and pieces for my small but no less special day. And then my relationship ceased to make sense. It was a very hard, very sad time. And I really remember feeling very alone when it all happens — plenty of people talk about divorce, about second marriages, about boyfriend breakups… I couldn’t find other people who had cancelled their wedding. So, without further ado, here is my guide to canceling your offbeat wedding. These are just some of the things I wish I’d heard last year.

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Wedding backlash and being accountable for your choices

Wedding planning is all about making a crapload of choices. Even those couples who do their utmost to avoid making every single decision still have to face some choices. Dudes, some of those choices are tough ones. And we can talk forever about etiquette, or rules, or best practices, but real life comes with choices that don’t always fit into nice boxes. The thing is, when you make a big decision, especially about an event like a wedding, people have major feels about it. MAJOR FEELS. And when it comes to weddings, we often want to seek advice but we also often get unsolicited advice. In the face of that, you need to be prepared to be accountable.

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Crowdsource mini works of art from your guests as the RSVP

Jess and Martyn tapped into their guests’ creative sides to collect all kinds of drawings, poems, collages, and well-wishes as a form of RSVP. They included blank postcards in the invitations, and commissioned artistic or written works of art to display at the reception. What they received was no less than an amazing poster-sized exquisite corpse filled with the energies of the people they love.