We know that some of us throw a party where you happen to get married, and some of us don't. Some of us love the details, and some of don't. We talk a lot about wedding details… so what about those of us who don't care about them?
I said from the beginning that I wanted a homegrown wedding — my fiancé, not being from the area I grew up in, has been amazing and understanding regarding that fact. The dress was the priority — it always has been. I fell in love with that gown before I’d fallen in love with a human. It’s a part of me. But apart from the location and the dress, the rest of the day has really not been a joy to plan.
You see, I’m running my own business, and I care more about my monthly invoices than which cheese we’ll be serving.
Yes, there are aspects that my fiancé and I have agreed on with excitement: the entertainment (Spotify playlist chosen by our guests); the hog roast, the tea corner (seriously, every wedding should have one). But those details have been easy to decide, they’ve made sense to us, and we probably would do something like that for any party.
I see my friends on social media, whose weddings are over a year away, who have already planned their place settings and flowers. One of them has an app on their phone that counts down the number of days to MY wedding. I’ve not done that… (80-something I think?)
I’ve said “yes” and “no” to suggestions. I’ve talked about my hen do with my bridesmaids. But the ideas haven’t flowed through me.
The thing is, the part I’m most looking forward to is after the wedding: the marriage.
Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to wear that dress, and I am looking forward to the party, the food, and the people. But, at the end of the day, those are all things that I will also probably enjoy at, say, my 40th birthday party (including the dress — why not?).
But what seat coverings, what place settings, and what food is served, I really don't care. If it rains, the hog roast is burnt, and there’s a power cut, I won’t care.
I mean, it’s just one day out of a lifetime. I don't want to put too much pressure on myself about the details. When all I really care about is announcing my love and commitment to the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Then we’ll carry on as normal, like we did the day before. And I'll keep sending out those bloody invoices.
Anyone else finding themselves not caring about details? What are you focusing on instead? Marriage? Vows? Honeymoon?