The offbeat bride: Cali, Cultural Development Officer
Her offbeat partner: Richard, Architecht
Location & date of wedding: Rocky Point Island at Balmoral Beach, Sydney, Australia — October 16, 2009
What made our wedding offbeat: We dreamed up a ceremony that was true to us and created a celebration of creativity soul and love. Our families fully supported our authentic vision, and it was a real blessing!
The unique things included:
- Although not planned, the groom helped dress the bride on the morning of our wedding.
- The groom visiting the bride at the beautician half an hour before the wedding to check what he was supposed to do next.
- All flowers, live music, cars were made possible through the heart, soul, and generosity of our dear family friends
- We each designed our own outfits buying ready made pieces and creatively put it together
- Our colours represented a union of heaven and earth, feminine and masculine i.e. red representing our connection to the earth, and purple representing our connection to the sky and black, just because it is more our taste than white .
- I had five bridesmaids and two bridesmen and Richard had a tribe of best men…
The Tibetan singing bowl - Both my mum and dad walked me into the ceremony.
- Richard the groom played a tibetan singing bowl which called me into the ceremony.
- We wrote the whole ceremony ourselves and included our very dearest friends in reading poems and quotes throughout the ceremony.
- A very dear friend and teacher conducted a spiritual blessing before the celebrant married us, and asked all of our family and friends to send blessings- we truly felt blessed!
Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was finding a celebrant who supported our unconventional ideas. My tip here is keep looking until you find someone who is as inspired about your ideas and you are!
The other challenge was creating a ceremony which truly reflected both of us, that was designed collaboratively, that we were both equally involved because this was really important to us (as explained above).
The final challenge was how to keep our wedding in budget. We overcame this by really looking at lots of options and exploring all possibilities and low cost options. We thought of some gorgeous ideas here, like a moonlit picnic wedding under the stars (we can save that for another celebration). My motto is if you can’t afford it then be more creative about finding another option which realizes the essence of your idea. You know it usually ends up being far more original and creative than just going out and buying it.
We looked at all the resources we could muster through engaging friends and family with special talents like graphic design, photography, floristry, vintage cars etc … it really gave it much more heart and soul.
The gist is write a budget, look at what is a priority, what you can go without and seek the friends with skills who may be prepared to give you a special rate, and then regularly review the budget! It needs to be a living document not one that gets put in the draw.
My favorite moment: sharing our love for each other with the people we love!
My advice for offbeat brides: My tip is this, when you start creating your wedding go out and buy some butcher’s paper, coloured pencils and crayons, then stick up a couple of sheets of butchers paper on a wall, where it can stay permanently for a few months — use this as a “collaborative idea board” and dream up your wedding together. It is an amazing process. Firstly, its a great way to see how you create together. Secondly, you get to truly grow and cultivate your ideas together. In our case we created a whole new concept in the process and threw away our original idea!
With our first idea to hire a hall and bring in catering we became quite stressed. At this point we reminded ourselves that we wanted it to be a celebration not an “event management” experience, so we pulled our ideas board down and started again with fresh sheets of butchers paper. We decided anything that caused stress was out and anything that created inspiration and joy was in. This next “dreaming up our wedding” caused our ideas to flow, we simplified everything and focused on fun and making things easy, and this time it came with-in budget.
Getting married is so sacred and special, keep it simple, it really doesn’t need anything added!
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? On the day there will be disasters, whether it’s a gust of wind, rain, sunshine or in my case my corset getting tangled when my mum and dear friend tried to do it up for me ten minutes before the wedding, or that so and so was late, something didn’t have a button hole, we didn’t have a bottle opener, etc. but we decided to let go and let love carry us, and you know it makes all the difference.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Dress and corset: Gallery Serpentine
- Photographs by the ever talented Wendy McDougall
- Invites by the amazingly talented Emma-Lee at Milk Thieves Art and Design
- Reception at the Three Weeds Rozelle
- Hairdresser: Amboars
- Makeup by Gabrielle, La Belle Femme, Mosman
- Celebrant: Philip Holland
- Flowers: The divinely creative Bri Cheeseman
Enough talk — show me the wedding inspo!
