Frequently Asked Questions

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A few of the most common questions about Offbeat Wed, as cheekily answered by the site's Seattle-based founder, Ariel.

How can I submit a wedding to be featured?

Check out our submissions page to submit a wedding — we've got separate submission processes for couples submitting their weddings vs vendors submitting client weddings.

How do you pick which weddings to feature?

We love weddings full of nontraditional style, but our highest editorial priority is diversity — not just ethnic/cultural diversity, but weddings representing those who identify as BIPOC, LBGT, disabled, neurodiverse, nonbinary, older folks, and people who challenge the mainstream vision of all weddings being about young, white, slender heterosexuals. Here's more about how weddings are selected.

I'm a vendor. Can you promote my services to your readers?

We'd love to! Offbeat Wed is an ad- and vendor-supported website, and a big part of that is our curated Vendor Guide. It's our business to get YOUR business in front of our hundreds of thousands of blog readers and social media followers. Here's how to get started.

What do you mean by OFFBEAT?

The dictionary defines offbeat as “not conforming to an ordinary type or pattern.” To me, offbeat isn't about rebelling or showing the world how weird you are. Rather, it's about questioning all the wedding visions you've been fed and striving to create an event that's an authentic reflection of you and your partner. Offbeat Wed is NOT intended as a judgment against traditional weddings — this site aims to support people all along the spectrum of tradition. (Honestly, I should have used the word “authentic” instead of offbeat.)

Why did you change the name from Offbeat BRIDE?

I've fielded questions since the beginning about why the name of the website was gendered. My initial answer was “the website is named after the book, and the book was published by a women's press, and they picked the name.” As the website became bigger than the book, I shifted my answer to “We believe bride is a state of mind not a set of genitals.”

But when I produced our inclusive marketing guide for wedding vendors, I realized that it was time. I could no longer justify keeping the old name.

I'm not the first wedding publisher strip the word “bride” from their name, and hopefully I won't be the last. Being inclusive is an ongoing process, and we're ALL still learning… and that includes us.

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If you're offbeat, why are some of the weddings on your site more traditional?

One of Offbeat Wed's top editorial missions is diversity and inclusivity, which means the site celebrates weddings all along the offbeat spectrum, including a few that might appear more traditional. Your wedding and this website are not contests to see who can be the weirdest.

Our commitment to inclusivity also means that diversity is a top priority — something we're very open about on our submissions page, and have written about going back to 2012. Prioritizing diversity can be uncomfortable, but we've decided it's more important that Offbeat Wed includes couples with a wide variety of ethnic backgrounds, ages, abilities, and identities, than it is that every wedding adhere to some mandate of “offbeat enough.” This means that sometimes Offbeat Wed prioritizes sharing a range of weddings, regardless of whether they have more overtly offbeat visible details.

Offbeat Wed readers are encouraged to self-identify. If you're reading Offbeat Wed, then you're offbeat enough. If you've found a happy place here, then you belong here!

Aren't some of the weddings you feature sort of, um, tacky?

Honey, it's not just some of them — they're ALL tacky!

What happened to the Offbeat Bride Tribe?

The Tribe was our forum from 2007 – 2015. For more information, head over here.

Still have a question?

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