I’m Kiki, the officiant behind SPARK Ceremonies, and I create wedding ceremonies for couples who don’t want religion, don’t want boring, and don’t want something that feels like a Mad Libs script where names are simply slotted in. SPARK isn’t just a name — it’s how I approach ceremony. It stands for Secular, Proud Ally, Animal-Inclusive, Rebel (non-traditional), and Kindred Storytelling. At its core, that means room for the beings who matter most to you — whether your family has two legs, four legs, no legs, or wings — and a ceremony that tells your story with warmth, humor, and intention. I work with non-traditional couples in Vancouver and Portland, as well as across Southwest Washington and Northwest Oregon, who want a ceremony that actually sounds like them — irreverent when it should be, meaningful where it matters, and grounded in real storytelling instead of filler fluff. I welcome and affirm couples of all genders, sexual orientations, identities, bodies, family structures, and backgrounds. My work is rooted in respect, consent, and intentional language — so you never have to translate yourself, defend your choices, or wonder if you belong here. Every ceremony I create is secular, custom-written, and built around your relationship — not traditions you never asked for. If including your dog is non-negotiable, great! If you want something a little witchy, symbolic, or quietly rebellious, also great! My job is to help you create a ceremony that feels intentional, personal, and unmistakably yours. I’m not for everyone — and that’s a feature, not a flaw! I’m here for couples who take marrying their best friend seriously, and who see the ceremony as more than just twenty minutes to get through before the music starts and the drinks are poured. If this has you nodding along, we’re likely a great match! I’d love to hear what kind of ceremony you’re imagining!

How I cater to offbeat weddings

When I got married, I wanted a pink wedding dress.

Not blush. Not “barely there.” Pink. Think Pepto-Bismol barfed across satin pink.

My mom generously offered to make the dress and then categorically refused to make it anything but white. We compromised on ivory with colorful rosettes across the back, which was… beautiful, but I learned something that day:

The wedding industry, sometimes embodied by the people who love you most, has very strong opinions about what you’re supposed to want.

And I’ve been side-eyeing that ever since.

Early Pinterest once gifted us a pin that said, “Anyone who got married before Pinterest gets an automatic do-over.” I didn’t just laugh at that. I still feel it. So many of us were never shown that we had options — but we really do.

For example, I didn’t want a religious ceremony. I was clear about that. But my then-fiancé strongly wanted his friend, who was in seminary at the time, to preside. In an effort to honor what mattered to him, I agreed. I wrote the ceremony myself to ensure it stayed secular, and it did. There was no overt God language. But it still wasn’t the person I would have chosen to stand at the front of my marriage.

That experience shaped me.

As a petite plus-size woman, I know firsthand that not every body is represented in bridal spaces. And if I could have had my dog as the ring bearer, he 100% would have been there.

All of that is why I do this differently now.

My ceremonies are explicitly secular. No surprise religion. No pressure to perform a version of marriage that doesn’t feel like you. When you work with me, your ceremony won’t be performative. It will be intentional, personal, and built around your relationship instead of someone else’s expectations.

If you want something symbolic, witchy, irreverent, joyful, deeply emotional, or quietly rebellious, I’m here for that. If you want the ceremony to feel like the heart of your day instead of something to get through, we’ll get along beautifully.

I believe in helping couples create the wedding they actually want the first time — so they don’t need a do-over.

We worked with another officiant before Kiki and everything felt cold — they literally sent us scripts with our names slotted in. Working with Kiki was a breath of fresh air. She made our ceremony so personal and truly us. Months later, we still get compliments about how meaningful and heartwarming it was. - Emily and Jack, Silcox Hut at Mt Hood Lodge

Examples of my work