Clay vs. stone: how we planned a multicultural wedding in the Western world
Wedding planning is like carving a statue: you chisel away at the granite to end up with the statue of your dreams. The rock you start with is based on what a wedding has looked like to you and your partner or what the world around you is offering such as bridesmaids, aisles, bouquets, vows, officiant, a white dress, etc. Chisel away the things you don’t want, and keep the things you do. This felt wrong for us, though. We needed to be potters, building something up from clay.
Cake tasting and spitballing: 6 tips for planning a wedding TOGETHER
When we went cake tasting, the wonderful woman who was working with us expressed her surprise that the groom was there. When we went to a venue, the coordinator spoke to me only and generally pretended my fiancée wasn’t there.
My fiancé and I decided to plan our wedding together. Our relationship has been a partnership, and we plan for our marriage to be a partnership; foisting the work on me for the wedding planning is out of sync with our relationship values. While the amount of talking can get exhausting, we’re committed to doing this together. As we continue the planning process, we’ll take some of the lessons we’ve learned so far and apply them forward…
5 ways to cope with depression while planning a wedding
You can find a thousand and one articles that debate the merits of chiffon vs. satin or tell you how to pick a good caterer, but there’s not much out there that tells you how to reconcile wedding planning with severe depression. With that in mind (and knowing that no two cases of depression are exactly the same) these are a few things that have helped me balance the two…
News flash: Being a woman doesn’t mean I know how to plan weddings
While I am a cisgender woman, I do not always adhere to the expectations of my gender (like many women). While I’ve come to terms with it in most parts of my life, there is something about the wedding process that shoves it in your face again and again and again…
While many vendors have been kind with my ignorance once I flat-out own it, there seems to be a constant, persistent expectation that I should have more of this wedding thing figured out, or that my double-X chromosome has given me fluency in this secret wedding language.