I’m taking the “wedding” out of our wedding and it changed everything
In short, I realized that I never cared about registries before, or themed parties, or catering, florists, fancy cakes, or venues. So, why do I want a giant one-day event that doesn’t reflect EITHER of us? Just because it’s… you know… expected?
Planning a marriage instead of a wedding
Planning a wedding v. planning a marriage — is there a difference? Should we separate the two? Tribe member Jana explores the idea and it just may change how you look at your wedding plans.
Musings from an offbeat groom: I DON’T want to be on the sidelines, bored, or pitied
In which we have the rare guest post from a groom! Offbeat Bride Tribe member Caleb speaks up about what it’s like being a groom, and an offbeat groom at that…
This is not the most important day of my life: an Offbeat Bride’s vows to herself
Offbeat Bride Tribe member monicawesome wrote some pretty down to Earth vows to herself in preparation for her wedding day. We think every bride could benefit from this little personal vow pep-talk.
My “no wedding talk” vacation, and why you need one too
Ah, what a few 3,500 meter mountains will do to put everything in perspective. Taiwan is a tiny island, and we are two single expats on it, out of several hundred thousand Westerners, and quite a few more expats from other Asian countries. And yet, as insignificant as I am on this teeming, overpopulated rock, the wedding was taking on ridiculous proportions, overwhelming my life and becoming the center of everything I thought was important. To the point where I wondered what it was like to be someone who didn’t really care about The Wedding, or Any Wedding. I am not really the “OMG it’s the most specialest day of my liiiife!” kinda girl, so when I realized that I was becoming that girl without actually believing the hype, well, that was doubly worrying.
Letting go of perfect
I am settling now. And even though the word “settling” has a negative connotation, it is most emphatically NOT a negative feeling. Maybe it’d be better to say that I have re-prioritized? But semantics are just that, and I am settling — happily settling -– for less than everything I wanted for my wedding