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last names

This is a perennial hot topic for our readers — is it un-feminist to change your last name after the wedding? Should you hyphenate? How is early is too early to start using your married name? And how the hell do you change your last name after the wedding?! (That one has an easy answer.)

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OPEN THREAD: Is keeping my ex-husband’s last name disrespectful to my fiance?

I feel greatly conflicted. At this stage in my life, I resent the burden of having to change my name (again) when men have the privilege of bypassing this antiquated and gendered tradition. As a woman, why must this “choice” be thrust upon me and why must I face judgment from others? How do I respond to others who feel that retaining my current last name is disrespectful to my fiance?

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Top 5 reasons hyphenated names are awesome

Offbeat intern, Becca, and her sister brainstormed why their hyphenated last name kicks ass. Here’s our top five reasons!

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Musings on feminism and weddings

It doesn’t seem that long ago I was sporting short hair, dockers, button-downs and ties and hitting the bars. Now, I have hair down to the middle of my back, wearing a f’ing Vera Wang wedding dress and participating full force in the bridal industrial complex.

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Arroxane & Mike’s celestial, multicultural ceremony of matrimony

The Offbeat Bride Arroxane, Technical writer Her Offbeat Partner: Mike, Techie, inventor, and business owner Location & date of wedding: The Max recording stage in Dallas, TX — January 18, 2009 What made our wedding offbeat: From the theme to the attire to the food to the entertainment, it was about what we liked and […]