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identity

Having a bridentity crisis? Not sure what this whole wedding thing means when it comes to who you are as a person? Let’s work through some identity issues together. (Also, you may want to check out the book The Conscious Bride, which addresses a lot of personal identity issues related to wedding planning.)

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Musings of an almost not-bride

I won’t be an Offbeat Bride soon. In fact, I won’t be any kind of bride, because in a month I’ll be married. And for some reason, that’s making me sad. I don’t want to get into the whole “you should be planning for the marriage not the wedding!” or the politics of wedding vs. marital energy/time/money expenditure. I get that, I assure you. I want to acknowledge what an important and huge part of my life and identity being a bride and having a wedding has been for me, and I’m sure for you too. I want to share this journey, and who I am and have become.

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Processing hetero-normative, non-offbeat relationship diagram

I am just as queer as I always have been, but my current partnership appears totally hetero to an innocent bystander … this has subtly affected my expectations of what a relationship looks like.

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Let’s talk about labels and self-identifying

Over the last couple months we’ve gotten comments from well-intentioned readers concerned about how we title and label the Real Offbeat Weddings on Offbeat Bride…

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What does being a bride feel like?

“So, what do you do if you don’t FEEL like a bride? I don’t know what to do; I want my man (I’m madly, head over heels in love), I want a wedding (I love parties and I love planning), but I just haven’t felt like a bride…”