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feeling competitive

Weddings can bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings… including competitiveness, envy, and feeling jealous of other people’s weddings. This is our collection of posts exploring the green-eyed wedding monster, with great suggestions for how to get over competitive wedding syndrome, and start feeling joyful.

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Wedding trend overthinking: Everyone else is doing it!

I started searching online and found all these great ideas: mercury glass candle holders, stacks of books for centerpieces, stationary with those cool old brackets on it, lanterns, library card escort cards — and ran with it. I was so happy that we were doing things that felt like us and not just the same old cookie-cutter wedding stuff that we had seen throughout our twenties. It felt amazing. Until we realized that everyone else was doing it, too.

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Oh Noes, I Think My Wedding Will Be Normal!

You may think I’m crazy since our wedding was actually pretty darn offbeat and unique. But it didn’t really feel that offbeat, and I was wondering if I should be concerned. I saw all these seriously amazing weddings on Offbeat Bride and the Tribe and I wanted to be among that crowd. Then I realized that the fact that it felt normal was awesome. It actually meant we were doing it right.

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On being a special snowflake in a community full of them

Almost every wedding idea I have, someone else here has had before me, and someone else will have it again after me. So how to be a Special Snowflake in a drift of other Special Snowflakes? I’m not entirely sure yet. But here are a few things I AM sure of…

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All weddings are awesome — not just mine

I am confused by the attitude that surrounds weddings and costs and ideas and things. Maybe that’s what makes me offbeat… My problem lies in all the intense bitchiness that lives in the wedding world. “My wedding is better than yours because of such-and-such.”

Can we all just chill the fuck out and be nice to each other for like… five and a half seconds?