Category Archive

feeling competitive

Weddings can bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings… including competitiveness, envy, and feeling jealous of other people’s weddings. This is our collection of posts exploring the green-eyed wedding monster, with great suggestions for how to get over competitive wedding syndrome, and start feeling joyful.

Surviving as offbeat in mainstream online communities

Surviving as offbeat in mainstream online communities

Is it just me, or is it difficult being an Offbeat Bride on more traditional websites? While I love to talk about planning weddings, why are the communities on these websites as a whole so judgmental? Is it just me that’s met with this…hostility, if I even dare to ask about something that seems too offbeat, taboo, and “rude?” We’re just surviving as offbeat in mainstream online communities…

How we're making peace with our streamlined wedding

How we’re making peace with our no bells and whistles wedding in the WIC pressure cooker

Planning a budget-friendly, streamlined wedding that doesn’t feature all the “bells and whistles” of traditional weddings is not without its judgments and that’s where my recent stress has been coming in. Wedding planning forums can make you question if your wedding is going to be remembered as the “worst wedding ever,” your ideas suck, and it’s all going to be tacky, especially if you are cutting some corners, budget-wise. Here’s how we’re handling the pressure.

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How important is it for people to say yours was the BEST WEDDING EVER?

Y’all know I loves me some data, and this little nugget from Splendid Insights is a hot nugget — turns out that generally speaking, almost 70% of us think having the BEST WEDDING EVER matters. Maybe it’s not the top priority, but it still matters.

What does this say about us?

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What Dungeons and Dragons taught me about wedding budget frustrations

I’m an avid player of all tabletop roleplaying games. But my favorite, the one I keep coming back to, is good ol’ Dungeons and Dragons. I have played characters at all levels, from a 1st-level rogue who could get knocked out if a goblin sneezed on her the wrong way to a 27th-level bard who ultimately became the avatar of a god, and everything in between. I’ve scoured books and websites looking for just the right prestige class, feat, or special ability to make my characters the very best they could be. But what does this have to do with wedding planning? Or budgeting? Turns out, quite a lot…