Category Archive

feeling competitive

Weddings can bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings… including competitiveness, envy, and feeling jealous of other people’s weddings. This is our collection of posts exploring the green-eyed wedding monster, with great suggestions for how to get over competitive wedding syndrome, and start feeling joyful.

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How to get over wedding jealousy

Sometimes I look at things that I would love to have for my wedding and I feel a little niggling of the green-eyed monster. Yep, wedding jealousy happens to the best of us. When that happens, however, I go through a little process of self-questioning…

I didn't bother to get offbeat vendors and now I regret it

I didn’t bother to hire offbeat vendors and now I regret it

As I get deeper into planning the wedding, I’m weirdly worried about living up to my photographers (and others) expectations and I worry about not being a “hot” enough bride with a “pretty” enough wedding. How do I keep the wedding day focused on what my fiance and I want, even though some of the people around us have different expectations?

Ring shopping regret: I went window shopping for rings and now regret it

I went window shopping for rings and now regret it

I had a modest ring that I could afford bookmarked and budgeted. Then my fiancé convinced me that we HAD to go try on rings at a big box jewelry store. The men’s band and wedding set we found and fell in love with costs $8,000! And my reasonable little ring looks shabby and drab by comparison. I thought I could walk away, and I can. I just did not anticipate the other cascade of feelings…

Wedding pirates: making peace when a friend steals your wedding ideas

Wedding pirates: making peace when a friend steals your wedding ideas

Wedding planning is hard, you guys. This we know. You’re inundated with ideas, traditions, must-haves, how-tos, and a general sense of “whatthefuckdidigetinto.” So you start to panic. You search Pinterest or Offbeat Bride or wherever to figure out how to plan this hugh jass party you’ve never planned before. But wait, you know something. You’ve been to weddings. You’ve been to friends’ weddings. And that’s where kernals of ideas start to happen. Is it a slippery slope to “stealing” ideas from friends? Yep. And if you’re the friend with the ideas, you may not like it. Not when you’ve carefully crafted your aesthetic and DIY projects and authentic-to-you ideas. Here’s how to deal when you feel that a friend has stolen your wedding ideas…