Realizing I can’t do it all on the wedding day: A “Type A” bride’s crisis
I never realized how “Type A” I can be until I started planning a wedding. It’s giving me an inordinate amount of stress to know that I can’t actually be the one cuing the music during our wedding ceremony. I can’t be the one decorating the tables at the reception hall. I can’t sit with the DJ and make sure he picks the perfect sequence of songs. Fellow Type-A brides: How are you handling having to relinquish control of your wedding day to other people?
My “Big Day” as an annual event: Why my less-than-perfect wedding isn’t a big deal
I didn’t get the wedding I wanted and that’s perfectly okay, because I’m going to have a wedding every year for the rest of my life. If I’m allowed to have this crazy notion that my husband and I are going to spend the rest of our freaking lives together, why not vow to celebrate our marriage at least once a year? We’ll turn every anniversary into an opportunity to get hitched again.
How do I give up what I’d always expected my wedding to be?
I always expected to have a big wedding in my hometown, complete with second cousins and friends from high school. Basically, this can’t happen if my partner’s family is to attend, because they can’t travel due to their health. So even though, in a vacuum, I’d love to have my big hometown wedding, it’s just not feasible with my partner’s life. She wants a family-only wedding or an elopement.
…But how do I get over that lost wedding?
Worst wedding ever: how I handled wedding day disappointment
Is it normal to be unhappy on your wedding day? Because I was. Right after my wedding ceremony, the only thought in my head was “this wedding would never be good enough to be on Offbeat Wed.” I was dealing with wedding day disappointment, BIG TIME.