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Offbeat Wed is not anti-etiquette. Couples do indeed need to consider guest comfort when making decisions, and they absolutely are not off the hook for being responsible and accountable for people’s reactions to those decisions. Here are more of our offbeat thoughts on modern wedding etiquette…

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Wedding etiquette basics every bride, groom, and marrier should know

The guests you’re inviting to your wedding love and support you enough to take time out of their schedules to celebrate with you. Here are a few wedding etiquette basics to convey you see them and appreciate them for showing up for you.

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Should wedding announcements mention a gift registry?

My son and daughter in-law got married in a small civil ceremony due to Covid restrictions. Can we send out wedding announcements that tactfully incorporate a wedding registry?

Gay wedding etiquette rules every guest should follow

Pronouns & assumptions: Gay wedding etiquette rules every guest should follow

Maybe you’re a seasoned pro at attending same-sex weddings or maybe they’re a new concept for you, and you don’t want to be responsible for any awkwardness on someone’s wedding day. It’s easy to fall prey to a faux pas when it comes to saying the right things. Understand that the basics, love and respect, remain the same for both straight and LGBTQ weddings.

Here are six gay wedding etiquette rules that will make you the couple’s favorite…

Do I need to invite someone's adult daughter to my intimate wedding?

Do I need to invite someone’s adult child to my microwedding?

My sister wants us to invite her boyfriend’s adult daughter to our wedding, even though we’ve never met her. Her family already accounts for five invitations for her household already.

We have worked so hard to keep our wedding small and intimate and quite frankly don’t want a stranger there. Are we being selfish?

How do we communicate that we sincerely want no wedding gifts?

How do we clearly communicate that we want NO wedding gifts?

When it comes to gift-giving, the general consensus among my peers is that you give what you can, if you wish. As far as we’re concerned, your presence is present enough — especially considering that we are a bunch of broke Millennials.

My extended family, however, hardcore-believes in tangible gifts. Some of them are sticklers for the traditional (and comfortably middle-class) notion of extensive and expensive gifts at shower, hen party, and wedding. It’s generous, but also uncomfortable, at odds with our values, and not always string-free. How can I discourage gifts at my wedding?

Wedding dates to avoid in 2018, 2019, and beyond

Wedding dates to avoid in 2018, 2019, and beyond

I’m compiling this list of wedding dates to avoid in 2018, 2019, and 2020 in case you want to avoid holidays where family and friends might have conflicting events, holidays where vendors might be especially busy and/or expensive (think Valentine’s Day for florists), or religious holidays where places might be closed or guests might have other plans.

Does this mean you CAN’T book your wedding for one of these days? Hell no!