The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying “no,” even to yourself
Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. You’ve gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill. This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.
When your culture is counter-culture: Lovingly explaining your more traditional wedding choices
Offbeat Bride has some wonderful, “Thank you for your interest but I’ve already decided” conflict resolution posts that apply to pretty much anything. But here are some specific scenarios if you, like me, find yourself a little bit too onbeat for others’ likings.
Hair color judgments: when you’re invited to a wedding, but your hair color isn’t welcome?
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt judged? I attended my very dear friends’ rehearsal and it was very clear, from the moment I set foot in the ceremony space, that there were a number of people displeased with my particular choice in hair dye jobs. Afterwards I was informed that my blue hair — the blue hair that I’ve had for about five years now — is not welcome by the People Paying For The Wedding. Here’s what I did when faced with that sad reality…
6 reasons why wedding planning seems to make everyone act crazy
In the wake of some drama with our families, I’ve been reading a bit on why wedding planning seems to make people act crazy and unreasonable. And I think I’ve come to some conclusions on why both of our families are being so bloody difficult throughout this whole process.