Wrestle power from the government with this blessing for your nonlegal wedding
I was browsing through Molly and Laurie’s wedding photos and came across an officiant’s blessing that made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. The couple said their vows in Washington before the state had legalized gay marriage, and their celebrant closed the ceremony with this statement:
The end of marriage as we know it, or: Why I won’t be making it legal
We do not currently live together, we have three cats between us, only one of us (me) has US citizenship, oh and she doesn’t fly… During those many anxious months, we were often asked if we’d get married so that she could immigrate. Every time it came up I had such vehemently negative response. I recognize that at some point I may have to sign papers, because the state has a nasty way of making itself necessary. But I’d prefer not to and I plan to avoid it if at all possible, and here’s why…
5 non-legal commitment ceremony ideas
There are many reasons that commited people don’t get legally married — from not being allowed to by law, to just not being comfortable with the concept. We don’t give a shit why you don’t want to make it legal, we just love the fact that you want to celebrate your commitment to to one another. So here are some ways you can throw a non-wedding party…
Wedding Ceremony 101: How to write a wedding ceremony from scratch
We’ve got expert advice on all the parts of a wedding, and how structure your wedding ceremony from start to finish, complete with a sample outline.