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The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying “no,” even to yourself

Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. You’ve gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill. This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.

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Wedding weight loss: fighting pressure to lose weight for your wedding

All of my anxieties about my mother scrutinizing my weight all through the engagement process (“No wedding dresses are going to look attractive on you if you don’t lose a good 40 pounds!”) makes me almost not want to get married at all. How do I deal with it? How do I tell her to back off without pissing her off or giving her a brush-off answer?

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How to talk about your wedding on Facebook without pissing people off

So your relationship status has changed from “in a relationship” to “engaged” and now all of Facebook is chiming in to say “congrats!” Even what’s-her-face commented that she “can’t wait for the wedding!” But… you never even planned to invite her.

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The art of the Low-Drama No: developing your bridal boundaries

How can you make your needs clear without steamrolling other people’s concerns and comfort levels? How can you say no without stomping a high-rise?