Officiants: The Good, The Bad, and the Photobombs

When it comes to weddings, the officiant plays one of the most pivotal roles. They set the tone, guide the couple through their vows, and oversee the legal aspects of the ceremony. But as anyone in the wedding world knows, officiants can also bring surprises; some delightful, others a bit challenging. Let’s explore the good, the bad, and the occasionally hilarious moments officiants bring to the table.

The Good: Setting the Stage for Love

A great officiant does more than read a script; they create an atmosphere of connection and warmth. They take time to know the couple, understand their story, and craft a ceremony that reflects their unique journey together. Whether it’s a heartfelt anecdote about how the couple met or a perfectly timed joke to ease nerves, these officiants make the moment memorable for everyone.

One of our favorite moments was during a recent ceremony where the officiant surprised the couple with a reading of their first text messages to each other. It was sweet, funny, and so unique to them.

The Bad: When Things Go Awry

Unfortunately, not all officiants rise to the occasion. Sometimes, their intentions are good, but the execution falls flat. Common issues include:

• Unpreparedness: Forgetting the couple’s names or mixing up details.
• Over-personalization: Making the ceremony more about themselves than the couple.
• Inappropriate humor: Jokes that miss the mark or feel uncomfortable.

We once witnessed an officiant tell a “funny story” about the groom’s college antics that left the bride’s family cringing. While mishaps can be forgiven, these moments are a reminder of the importance of choosing an officiant who understands boundaries and respects the gravity of the day.

The Photobombs: Unexpected Entertainment

Then there are the moments officiants unintentionally steal the show. From unintentionally blocking the first kiss with an overenthusiastic cheer to accidentally photobombing the perfect shot.

When you have the perfect team of a great officiant and experienced planner/coordinator, you can rest assured every moment will be perfectly thought through to make for a seamless ceremony.  

How To Choose A Wedding Officiant

When selecting an officiant, think about the tone you want for your ceremony. Whether it’s lighthearted, traditional, or deeply spiritual, finding someone who aligns with your vision is key. Don’t hesitate to ask for references, watch videos of their past ceremonies, or meet with them to ensure they’re the right fit.

The important choice: Professional Officiant vs. Friend or Family Member

Deciding whether to hire a professional officiant or ask a friend or family member to officiate is a big choice. Each option has its pros and cons, and the right decision depends on your priorities.

Professional Officiant

Pros:

• Experience: They’ve likely officiated numerous weddings and know how to handle unexpected situations.
• Customization: Professionals often craft personalized ceremonies that reflect your relationship.
• Reliability: They’re familiar with the legal requirements and ensure everything is done correctly.
• Neutrality: A professional brings an unbiased presence, which can be helpful for blended families or complex dynamics.

Cons:

• Cost: Professional officiants typically charge a fee, which can vary widely.
• Less Personal: While they can personalize the ceremony, they don’t have the same emotional connection as someone close to you.
• Unadaptable: Some professionals may resist non-traditional ideas, making collaboration harder. This can be difficult for your planner/coordinator to work with. Choose someone open to teamwork for a better ceremony.

Friend or Family Member

Pros:

• Personal Connection: Having someone you love and trust officiate can make the ceremony feel more intimate.
• Cost-Effective: Usually, there’s little to no expense involved.
• Flexibility: They may be more open to incorporating unique or nontraditional elements.

Cons:

• Pressure: The responsibility of officiating can be stressful for someone close to you.
• Inexperience: Unless they’ve officiated before (or have good guidance!), they may not know how to handle nerves or unexpected challenges.