How divorce has positively affected my wedding planning
My parents and my future husband are all divorced. And this is probably going to sound like a really odd, coming from someone planning her first, and hopefully only wedding. But I wanted to share some thoughts I had on how divorce has, in fact, positively affected my wedding planning process.
“Oh, I’d never do that” or how getting married has turned me into a liar
Apparently when you tell friends and family that you’re happy the way you are and that you can take it or leave it (“it” being matrimonial bliss), that you’re out of yo’ damn mind. But that’s not what makes me a liar, since I’m still stickin’ to my guns that I’d not made any sweeping declarations regarding marriage. But still… in the past month or so, I’ve been scratching my head about and thinking “Huh. I am such a liar.”
The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying “no,” even to yourself
Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. You’ve gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill. This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.
Our elopement that people were invited to attend: re-thinking what “eloping” means
Our elopement was attended by 60 people… 60 people who were all invited. That’s not an elopement you say? I say, well then maybe it’s time to change your definition of elopement! It might actually make your wedding planning way less stressful.