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Philosophizing

How do you feel about your wedding? What does it all mean? How does wedding planning a metaphor for the rest of your life?

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Airs of indifference and being “too cool” for this wedding stuff

I have this idea that I should be embarrassed about wanting a wedding. I keep pretending to care less than I do. Insisting that my dress isn’t a big deal — I’ll still get to get married, even if I don’t look pretty doing it. If our retired-baker friend has plans and we don’t get a cake, that’ll be okay, since we can always get a sheet cake from the grocery story. Flowers? Who needs ’em? It reminds me of when I was a senior in high school, and I wanted desperately to go to the prom, but had to act like I was too cool to actually care.

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Moving forward with wedding planning after losing a parent

After experiencing an amazingly beautiful moment when my dearest asked me to be his wife, I am now trying to cope with the unexpected loss of my mom, and the deep need to move forward with my wedding. The question I have been asked constantly since the passing of my mom has been, “are you still getting married this year?” My answer has been emphatically “yes.”

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The unexpected way wedding magazines helped me realize the wedding I want

I bought a couple of magazines for my wedding. One was a copy of Martha Stewart Weddings magazine. That Martha mag was a little bit of the Wedding Industrial Complex reaching out and grabbing me and pulling me in. And it taught me few very important things…

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Half our guests said no: Seeing the positives to an itty bitty guest list

More than half our guest list is unable to attend our wedding. As a result, we’ve gone from having a small wedding to having a microscopic one. I keep waffling between thoughts of, “This is awesome!” and, “Ohfuckohfuck, what will people think?!” I want to kick these negative thoughts about our compact wedding to the curb. They’re untrue, and they only serve to make me feel bad. I don’t deserve to feel bad. I’m a fantastic person hosting a fantastic wedding. In the name of positivity, here’s a list of everything that can be awesome about itty bitty weddings: